Kendra Paige Passmore is a Lying, Cheating, Narcissistic Slut From Canton, IL. (Cheating Texts)
Kendra Passmore is a known liar, known and confirmed cheater, extremely selfish
and self-centered, immature, ignorant, materialistic, manipulative, demanding, controlling and narcissistic. Kendra Passmore or Kendra Paige Passmore is 24 years old with a birthday of 9/8/1998 and is currently employed at ABBE Mental Health Center in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Currently, Kendra lives in Cedar Rapids, IA and has lived in Coralville, IA, Iowa City, IA, Maynard, IA but is originally from the small white trash town of Canton, IL. Kendra has several mental health issues including anxiety disorder, panic disorder, PTSD, bipolar disorder, and seasonal affective disorder which she sees several mental heath counselors for and also takes several prescription medications for. Kendra likes to provoke and mentally abuse people to the point of upsetting them and then playing the victim once her actions or words pushes the person past their breaking point and they become upset with her. Kendra also has a big mouth and likes to run her mouth off and talk poorly about people behind their back and discuss other people's private matters openly with complete disregard for the persons privacy.
Kendra despises individuals who are Catholic and she absolutely hates the Asian students at the University of Iowa, she feels they are entitled and she refers to them as "F**KING ASIAN'S." When I showed Kendra a picture of my girlfriend from high school in late December 2018, who was half Asian, Kendra immediately said "SHE IS UGLY!!" I also have a South Korean sister-in-law who fought hard in the late 1970's to make it to the United States with her new born son. Take a look at the men Kendra has dated are they all amazing looking? Kendra will lie and play the victim to get sympathy even after she has provoked others by being abusive, manipulative, or cheating on them. She will use men to her advantage for sex and money then cheat on them behind their back just like her worthless, ignorant, whore of a mother Nikole Ouellette, another liar and cheater who also leeches men of their money and then cheats on them. Aliases that Kendra is known to go by on the University of Iowa campus because of all of her hookups for sex with different men and women, because she is bisexual, include Kendra Paige Whoremore, Kendra Paige Slutmore, Kendra Paige Trampmore, Kendra Paige Cheatmore, Kendra Paige Liemore, Kendra Paige Fuckmore Men, Kendra Paige Suckmore Dick, Kendra Paige Swallowmore Cum, Kendra Paige Slutwhore, or Passmore Kendra from Man to Man so they can have sex with her.
In early November 2018 her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, told Kendra she looked like a tramp to her face because of the way she was dressed to go out drinking at the bars in Peoria, IL while she was underage. Kendra also goes after men that like to travel and she will manipulate and beg them to cover her expenses and take her on expensive trips like in January 2019 to the Dominican Republic which cost $6000.00. She will do this until you either figure out her manipulative ways or she gets caught cheating like her cheap whore cheating mother Nikole Leachman, Nikole Passmore, Nikole Caveglia, and now Nikole Ouellette. Click the link: "Nikole Leachman Caveglia Succubus" to see for yourself, this is how pathetic her mother is and who Kendra has learned from because Kendra lies and always takes the easy way out and sleeps around with men because she is so cheap and easy.
Kendra currently has 4 Instagram accounts so she can admire all the pictures of herself with past boyfriends. Who is that self-centered, a narcissist, a psychopath, or a Machiavellian? The "Dark Triad's" principles apply to Kendra because lurking beneath the surface of people who use and manipulate others for their own advantage (for sex, money, material items, and travel) is psychology’s “Dark Triad.” Defined as a set of 3 traits that include the tendency to (1) SEEK ADMIRATION AND SPECIAL TREATMENT (otherwise known as NARCISSISM) Kendra - look at me, don't dress better than me, you don't complement me enough, look at all the pictures of me and my photo shoot, pay $165.00 so I can go get sexually explicit pictures taken in the lingerie you bought that I manipulated you with and punished you with by not wearing for you even though you paid for it and we picked it out together at 2 different adult sex stores, you better not look at any other women when you have me to look at, you better not look down any other woman's shirt when you have my shirt to look down, but it's alright for me to share and hide 55 texts with my ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, to make arrangements to sneak to his house to have sex during the week of Valentine's Day 2019, take my picture, send me that picture of me, send me pictures of me on the swing from the Dominican Republic, I need "Likes" on Facebook and "Followers" on Instagram, EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!!! Buy me gifts!! “It's not about the money but I like when you buy me stuff” was a frequent saying of Kendra. (How do you buy “stuff or gifts” without money?) Kendra repeatedly told me her relationship with me was not about the money. If that was truly the case then why did she leave me when I was broke and if money was not the objective then she should be able to part with the over $30,000.00 of material items that I bought which she claims are all hers, just more lies due to her selfishness and narcissism. Take me out and show me off in the tens of thousands of dollars of great clothes, shoes, jewelry, makeup, and purses you bought me by sacrificing your entire savings and retirement because you loved me so much, took care of me, and gave me the best you could which was everything I wanted, asked for, and begged for.
Then let me go behind your back and try to cheat on you since you sacrificed everything you had for me, my family, my cats, and my friends. Since I am so self-absorbed and ignorant when you take me out for dinner I will just sit on my cell phone and ignore you while you pay the $90.00 to $250.00 bill and I am on Facebook, texting, or on Instagram. I don't care that I hurt you so bad by the cheating text messages and what I said about you in them and the lies I told the Iowa City Police about you and berating you about the sexual issues you were having because of my punishment and harsh criticism. I don't care that you contemplate suicide daily because you are hurting so bad about how I portrayed you to the Iowa City Police and what I did to your confidence, self worth, mental well being and how I used you for money even when you were actually struggling financially and selling your personal possessions to give me what I wanted and to put me first. I don't care that you have lost 22lbs because you don't eat for days, sometimes weeks, cry daily, cry when you go to bed, and cry every time you look at yourself in the mirror because of how I shamed you for not being muscular enough and mentally beating you down about your appearance so I could have control. I don't care that you drained your savings and retirement for me, to support me.
Kendra constantly made the comment "You don't talk about me enough to other people and tell them what I want to do with my life." After telling everyone she wanted to be a big shot lawyer she now wants to be an alcohol and drug counselor even though she has used 2 fake ID's and has been drinking underage since she was 13 and has illegally done ecstasy, adderall, and smoked a lot of marijuana. She is a great example and role model for her two younger brothers and she should be helping others with alcohol and drug recovery since she does illegal drugs and drinks alcohol underage illegally. Buy me the UGG boots and buy me the UGG slippers you didn't get me for Christmas after having already spent several thousand dollars on gifts for me, buy me the Kate Spade purse that I begged for 5 times in the store in Chicago, let me order Stitch Fix and RocksBox subscriptions and when the boxes arrive let me beg to use your credit card to buy the items since I didn't have the money anyways when I signed up for the subscriptions).
(2) TO BE CALLOUS AND INSENSITIVE (PSYCHOPATHY) (Kendra- continuously berating them and mentally breaking them down for a felony conviction from 24 years ago that they paid their debt for, saw a great psychologist for, received help for, learned from, grew from, and moved on from, then making them go to her mental heath counselor, Paul Schellenberg, in Peoria, IL on November 16, 2018 to discuss that same issue from 24 years ago when it wasn’t even an issue, paying $200.00 cash for the session, then afterwards still being ignorant and rubbing it in their face, using it to shame them and manipulate them, running and telling everyone she could about it, then having her ignorant white trash friend, Mariah Banta, (who Kendra constantly bad mouthed as being needy, a druggie, stating her child will be screwed up due to all the drugs her and her loser boyfriend have done, never living up to her potential, and dating a druggie loser, Drew Suddeth) post it on Facebook. Kendra did all this even after her mental health counselor said the situation from 24 years ago was NOT an issue and was a one-off event that was so far in the past that it was nothing to worry about. Kendra then again starts berating the person in front of her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, on February 11, 2019 for having sexual issues that she caused because of her demands, harsh criticism, and sexual narcissism that they were working through but she instead made fun of all because she was caught trying to cheat with her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez who her counselor told her to stay away from several times).
After Kendra was caught cheating she then ran to the Iowa City Police and lied about the person to get her way, play the victim, and to hide the truth about all the great things that he did for her in the relationship. The trip to the Dominican Republic, paying all her bills, being by her side for every medical appointment, in the ER for 9 hours, during her MRI wait, and medical procedures she had and buying her tens of thousands of dollars of material items that she wanted and/or begged for. All of this was being done to support her and put her first even though he was not working and literally drained his entire savings and retirement accounts and gave her everything because she came home from Bluebird Diner crying, once in late September 2018 and once in early October 2018, stating her hip and back hurt her too much to waitress and that other woman she worked with were harassing her and being mean and she couldn't handle it anymore. Once again Kendra was the victim and used emotional manipulation to get what she wanted from me.
(3) TO MANIPULATE OTHERS (MACHIAVELLIANISM) (Kendra- feel sorry for me, give me sympathy, I was abused by my parents/step parents, I was abused by my ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez, I was harassed at work and came home crying two times in hopes that you would support me so I didn't have to work, and look, my emotional manipulation was successful, my hip hurts carry me, my back hurts massage it, go to my doctor's appointments with me, my parents never made me a priority, I'm sick, my stomach hurts go get me suppositories, my mom never took me to the doctor because she is a worthless parent who was never there for me, my mom calls and tells me I have flaws while you were sitting next to me and she made me cry, I have the flu buy me Sprite then after I break up with you that day let me go get greasy McDonald's later because I lied about the flu to manipulate you and get more sympathy from you and to take the beautiful flowers you bought me, take care of me, spoil me, be the only reference for me on the job application to Prelude Behavioral Services, pray for me out loud that I get the job at night before we go to bed, now let me break up with you the day after I got the job even though you supported me and was always there for me the previous 5 months, even though you helped me get out of the bad situation at Bluebird Diner, even though you are in terrible debt because you put me first and didn't think twice about sacrificing your savings and retirement to provide for me, giving me everything I wanted and begged for. I was cheated on by my ex-boyfriend TJ Watts and it devastated me and I told you all about it to get sympathy from you so then let me cheat on you after you buy me all the things I wanted, asked for, and begged for because that is the kind of SELFISH PIECE OF SHIT THAT I AM after you supported me and drained your finances for me when you were struggling, after I constantly put you down about your age of 42 even though I knew your age on our first date, 9/6/2018 after I was the one to ask you out and give you my phone number, 9/4/2018, and kept telling you how great of a father you will be to our children and how supportive and great you will be during the childbirth process, constantly putting you down for the sexual issues you were experiencing from my constant harsh criticism, punishment, and telling my ignorant mother, my friends, and my mental health counselor about it behind your back to humiliate, belittle, and embarrass you).
The Dark Triad underlies a host of undesirable behaviors including (1) Aggressiveness (Kendra- getting mad when she didn't get what she wanted fast enough, the UGG Boots, UGG Slippers, Kate Spade Purse, $13,000.00 engagement ring from Tiffany's, and the townhouse she wanted, throwing tantrums when she couldn't curl her hair the right way, or do her makeup the right way), (2) Sexual Opportunism (Kendra- constantly seeking out new sex partners for her personal sexual gain and advantage, wanting to try new sex toys and sex restraints, asking to be put in sex restraints and blind folded then saying "Do whatever you want to me!", being mad when there was no "make up sex" after a disagreement which always ended by her putting me down for one thing or another, wanting to have sex in a public pool in the Dominican Republic, wanting to try new and different sex scenarios and positions in the shower), and (3) Impulsivity (Kendra wanting a $13,000.00 engagement ring within three months of dating and being upset when there no proposal on Christmas Day 2018 or 10 days later in the Dominican Republic in January 2019, wanting to move in together within three months of dating and already putting together a list of places in December 2018, talking about and wanting to start designing and building a new house within 5 months of dating, wanting to be married as soon as possible, everything always had to be done immediately, always RIGHT NOW!!).
Triad measures that test each of the three qualities separately show a pattern of behavior that in fact combines the WORST of all worlds. (1) They seek out multiple, casual sex partners (Kendra- all she does is hookup with men she hardly knows for sex and has one night stands with men between relationships, she was fucking her abusive ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the same week we went on our first date, then she was fucking James Flickinger who was arrested for OWI and now she is fucking Rayce Neal who's father was in prison for two years: Google "Terry Neal Marion Iowa Department of Justice").
(2) When someone gets in their way, they act out aggressively to take what they want (Kendra- runs to Iowa City Police and lies to them about several things, including why she stopped working at Bluebird Diner, lying about having her passenger side front tire punctured and then never responding to two inquiries when the Iowa City Police called and e-mailed her about it, lying about seeing someone by her apartment on June 14, 2019 when in fact she saw them drive past her that night when she was leaving 30 HOP at 12:30am after being at the bar underage and drinking underage, and lying about when she found them sleeping in their car in her apartment parking lot because it was during the relationship on January 13-14, 2019 when she wanted some "alone time" and they respected that however they had no place to go even though they were paying the rent and bill's for the apartment so their only option was to sleep in their car in the parking lot in below zero temperature weather.
Kendra is incredibly selfish with the mentality of “I am not giving back the material items I know rightfully belong to you that you paid for, it's all mine because I am selfish and my mom and dad didn't spoil me and buy me what I wanted so I found someone to buy me things by emotionally manipulating them with my poor me, I am a poor girl story and always being sick or hurt then I got caught trying to cheat on them behind their back hoping I would get away with it and they would continue to buy me more stuff). Oddly enough, although their self-esteem doesn’t seem to be either higher or lower than others, people who score high on the Dark Triad qualities have an unstable view of themselves.
Kendra wants to be a therapist and strongly believes everyone needs mental health counseling or therapy and that everyone should be on prescription medication for their problems, like her. She gets a high from forcing people into counseling or therapy and getting them on prescription medication and she feels that this is the only way she can forgive them for any wrongdoing they may have caused her, even if she provoked the situation like trying to cheat on them or repeatedly shaming them, mentally abusing them and exploiting them. This is a sick form of mental illness to think this way and also want to be a therapist. She also likes to play therapist and pull past trauma out of people like a felony conviction from 24 years ago then use it against them to shame them and mentally abuse them when she doesn't get what she wants financially/materialistically or gets caught trying to cheat on someone. This is a sign of severe mental illness!!!
Kendra's life is always one big pity party and she uses it to manipulate men to give her what she wants because it is poor poor Kendra who always plays the victim while lying about and victimizing other's for her personal gain. Kendra will throw people under the bus and lie about them even after they have provided for her and given her everything she wanted, asked for, and begged for, her greed and mental illness is severe, and she uses it to manipulate people with her little poor girl story. She doesn't care that someone unselfishly drained their entire savings and entire retirement account while they were unemployed and struggling just so they could provide for her and give her and her family the things she wanted and things she wanted for them.
Yes, after losing my job at UIHC in 2015 I was devastated but I gathered myself, didn't quit, and enrolled into the Neurobiology program which is one of the most difficult programs at the University of Iowa. Going back to complete this degree in my late 30's was not easy but I excelled in my program and graduated in December 2017 which many people would never try to accomplish. After graduating in December 2017 I had enough money for myself in my savings and retirement from UIHC to pay off my student debt, buy a new vehicle, and put a down payment on a house if I wanted to but after meeting Kendra and realizing that she needed help getting out of her job at Bluebird Diner because of the harassment she claimed she was faced with and the pain she was in I put all my wants, desires, and wishes aside to provide for her. I was desperately searching for a research position at the time to prepare for getting my PhD in neuroscience while studying for the GRE.
Kendra quit working at Bluebird Diner after coming home several times crying and claiming she was being harassed and treated poorly by several female co-workers and she was in a lot of pain from being on her feet too much, her hip hurt and her back hurt. We had a conversation about her quitting to find a new job so she then proceeded to write a resignation e-mail to the co-owner Jon Wilson and manager Ann Stork in early October 2018 stating she couldn't work in the difficult environment anymore. I supported her the entire time while I was trying to find a great research position, study for the GRE, and continue to provide for her. Maybe the Iowa City Police should talk to her friends Morgan Ramsey and Heather Campbell who also worked at Bluebird Diner with Kendra and know the truth about her, her lies, and the manipulative bullshit she pulled. I used my entire savings and retirement to take care of Kendra and forgo a fresh start for myself and now it is all gone because I cared for and loved her very much and after doing everything I did for her and losing my entire savings and finding her trying to cheat on me behind my back I truly feel suicide may really be my only option because I have nothing now. I gave her everything and I stepped up in a big way to help her when she needed it and then I get shit on and discarded by a selfish, self centered slut, Kendra Passmore!!!
When the person you love comes to you and says they are being harassed at work and are in too much pain to continue their job you have two options: 1) Tell them too bad, suck it up or 2) You help them no matter what the cost and hope to make a difference. I chose to help and I lost because Kendra doesn't give a damn about anybody except herself !!! Kendra had the audacity to go to the Iowa City Police and tell them that I called her at work and made her quit her job even after I found her crying at home two separate times telling me she couldn't handle the harassment and she was in too much pain to work there anymore. Kendra is too ignorant, immature, selfish, and self centered to admit to the police all the help I gave her and the great things I did for her.
When we first began dating Kendra wanted to move to the west coast which she told me at Maggie's Pizza on 9/12/18 when I took her on a date there so afterwards I began looking for and putting in research applications on the west coast. As our relationship continued she decided she wanted to move back to Illinois to raise a family with me and be closer to her family for when we had children. When she told me that I began putting in applications at Northwestern, Rush, and DePaul Universities for research positions every chance I got. She doesn't care that after she broke up with me I only had $13.00 to my name because as always I put her first and gave her everything else that I had and even paid for a $12.00 e-book she needed for a class earlier in the week when all I had was $25.00.
Always putting her first and sacrificing every dollar I had for her. She doesn't care that now I have nothing and struggle financially and mentally after the way she emotionally manipulated me, beat me down mentally about my past, belittled me because I wasn't muscular enough, and mentally abused me. In January 2019 during our relationship and one night after my birthday which was three nights after returning home from taking her on a $6000.00 trip to the Dominican Republic she made me sleep in my car in the parking lot of the apartment on below freezing and negative wind chill night when I was paying all the rent and bills, she was abusing me by constantly putting me down because of my past, my age, my sex drive, and because I wasn't going to the gym enough (so I went and got a gym membership and began lifting again), taking over $1000.00 for bills and rent from me the day before she broke up with me which then forced me to sleep in my car yet again in subzero temperatures while I had just paid the rent and energy bill for the month so she could stay warm, comfortable, and protected. Manipulating me by always playing sick, injured, or needing attention because her parents didn't give it to her, portraying me as evil to the Iowa City Police, and she did this even though I made a huge sacrifice and drained all of my finances to provide for her and now I am faced with great debt because I made her the priority in my life and gave her all I could and all she wanted, and all she asked for.
I was always a gentleman to her, opening her car door for her even when she drove, always pulling the chair out for her at restaurants, always helping her on and off with her coat, always opening doors for her at business', always taking her to stay at and dine in 5 star hotels and restaurants in Chicago, Peoria, and Davenport. Dining at the best restaurants in Iowa City, taking her for several shopping excursions on Michigan Avenue to get her whatever she wanted, getting a penthouse suite and getting her a spa treatment weekend at River City Casino in Davenport, taking her on several expensive shopping excursions at Coral Ridge Mall, always being attentive to her needs in the dressing rooms of stores, grabbing different sizes for her, and being supportive when she tried on outfits, never hesitating to get her the best name brand clothes / shoes / heels / booties, St. Louis Cardinals clothes / pullover / hat to take her to a Cubs vs. Cardinals game at Wrigley Field, UGG slippers, UGG boots (she constantly begged for), Timberland Boots, several coats / jackets both dress and casual, makeup and makeup accessories from Mac (over $800.00 worth), Sephora, Ulta, Lush, North Face coat/vest/plush jacket, Banana Republic dresses / skirts / sweaters /shirts / pants, Ralph Lauren and Dearborn Denim Jean's, Kate Spade Eyeglass Frames and lenses, Banana Republic dress pants / dress shirts / dress suit coats / light blue heels / brown and black knee high boots, 5 pairs of heels / dress shoes from DSW, $1300.00 in shoes / knee high boots / clothes / belts / accessories from White House Black Market, over $300.00 in clothes from Pink Sugar, over $800.00 in clothes from DryGoods, 2 pair of booties from Akira, over $300.00 in underwear / bras / workout clothes from Victoria Secrets, stuffed animals from Disney-Harry Potter-Build a Bear, UGG bedding, UGG blankets, UGG body pillow, UGG Bath Robe, Sleep Number Adjustable pillow, 3 Kate Spade purses (she begged for several times in the store in Chicago), Kate Spade Wallet, Kate Spade Passport Holder, Kate Spade Cat Coasters, Kate Spade jewelry, Kendra Scott jewelry, Pandora jewelry, Kate Spade wrist watch, Alex and Ani bracelets for her and her grandmother and her step mother and a necklace for her step sister, Coach purse for her grandmother, UGG blanket for her grandmother, UGG slippers for her father, Milwaukee heated work gloves for her father, UGG robe / wine / wine cork / wine glasses for her step mother, Pizza/Toaster oven / thick warm socks and joint warmers for her mother and step father, Ralph Lauren clothing outfits for her brother, Coca Cola collectibles / Coca Cola clock for her uncle, Neon Ford Mustang sign for her brother, North Face coat for her brother, Kate Spade kitchen accessories, Harry Potter books, Harry Potter Movie Set, Christmas Tree, Hallmark Ornaments, Star Wars Hallmark Tree Skirt, Star Wars Hallmark Tree Topper, Dyson Animal Vaccuum (because she had bad post nasal drip and allergy issues from cat dander), $1500.00 in sex toys for us both to enjoy / vibrators (she already had 5 of her own vibrators by the time she was 19 years old) / lingerie / sex restraints / folding sex bench / sex swing / anal gel / anal vibrator, full size swivel mirror to hold her jewelry, HP color printer (because she didn't want to drive to campus to print stuff for class), paid both her Wells Fargo and Victoria Secrets credit cards off, paid off her Mercy / UIHC / Chiropractor medical bill's that were going to a collection agency, paid her speeding ticket from University Heights, $1130.00 for floor seats at an Elton John concert in Chicago that she wanted to go to because of the song "Daniel", paid for her passport, a $6000.00 trip to the Dominican Republic in an all-inclusive adult only resort, rented an SUV to take all the Christmas gifts she wanted for her family to her family in Illinois because there were so many gifts, buying Christmas and graduation gifts for her friends, paying for her and her friend to get their nails done, paying for her to get her nails, hair, and eyebrows done, paid for and adopted a cat for her grandfather for Christmas, made sure her cats and his had what they needed, Furminator’s, carrying cases, litter box, litter pad, self-feeders, bowls, food, litter. Kendra had called and texted all of her family members and asked them what they wanted for Christmas and once she got the list I stepped up and got everything they wanted and whatever else she wanted for them.
I never hesitated putting her and her family first. Every time we visited her grandmother Kendra always wanted to get her flowers so without any hesitation I stopped and got her what she wanted for her grandmother. Over $30,000.00 spent just ON KENDRA ALONE in 5 months for clothing, shoes, jewelry, makeup, hair products, salon visits, manicures/pedicures and items for her cats. A large amount of the items purchased were for both of us to have and enjoy moving forward in our relationship. Kendra believes that everything I bought during our relationship is hers or was gifted to her. It was never implied in writing or verbally that many of the items were gifts for her, she is a liar and a thief. The over $30,000.00 DOES NOT include all the items for her family at Christmas, items and dining out for her friends, groceries, medication, dining out with her, hotel accommodations, hair, nails, eyebrows, the trip to the Dominican Republic that she begged for since September 2018 constantly stating "We should go somewhere warm for winter break"and asking several times "Did you book the vacation yet?", vehicle maintenance, vehicle repair, vehicle gas, and all her bills. I sacrificed my savings and retirement to give her all the things she said her parents or family members wouldn't buy for her. Kendra constantly told me how she hated shopping with her mother because her mother wouldn't buy her the clothes she liked because they were too expensive or too "Fancy" and her mother was cheap. She gave me this poor girl sob story and constantly complained about being sick or injured to manipulate me enough to feel sorry for her and buy her these things.
Kendra recognized that I had a big heart and soft spot for her and she exploited that through emotional manipulation and shaming me for my felony from 24 years ago, she then went behind my back and was caught making arrangements to cheat on me the week of Valentine's Day 2019 even after knowing that my deceased mother's birthday was February 14th and it was a difficult time for me. My mom will be gone 20 years as of January 25, 2020, I was 24 when I lost her and 27 when my brother died and my God mother/aunt. One thing I always remember my mother telling me after my father died on Christmas Eve in 1984 when I was 8 was "Even though we don't have much, it's always better to give and put others first." This is exactly what I did for Kendra, I sacrificed everything even though I was struggling very bad to find a great job. It doesn't matter what your age is, when you are cheated on or catch a partner trying to cheat on you it breaks a person and breaks them badly and after Kendra made sure to tell me how she was cheated on by TJ Watts and how bad it hurt her, and telling me she loved how loyal I was to her, then she tries to cheat like the SELFISH PIECE OF SHIT SHE IS!!!! I gave her everything plus a lot more and then she goes behind my back to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez the week of Valentine's Day, completely destroying my heart and mental well being, crushing my spirit and happiness I once had, and degrading my self-worth and confidence. She did still ask me if I had planned on proposing to her on Valentine's Day 2019 after we ate dinner and after she was caught on both February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019 making plans with her ex to sneak over to his place to have sex.
Three days prior as a 5 month anniversary gift on February 6, 2019 she was given a $500.00 Kate Spade purse that was shipped over night from a Michigan Von Maur that she had begged for and kept stating "It's on sale we should get it" while in the Kate Spade store in Chicago on December 23, 2018, a day after she was already given a $500.00 Kate Spade purse for an early Christmas gift that she really wanted. Kendra saw and wanted a $13,000.00 engagement ring from Tiffany's which I had no problem with but she was upset that there was no marriage proposal on Christmas Day 2018 or 10 days later in the Dominican Republic in January 2019. She had been going around to family and friends showing them pictures she took of the ring when she tried it on in September 2018 and again in October 2018 while in Chicago because all she talked about was marriage and having wchildren. Kendra was incredibly jealous that many of her friends were posting engagement photos and pregnancy photos on different social media platforms and she was trying so hard to rush into marriage and have children. While in the Dominican Republic in January 2019 she commented that marriage wasn't being talked about enough after a sales representative asked us if we had any children and the answer was no and they continued to say that our children would be beautiful. She was mad that when asked about children the answer wasn't "No, we are not married but that will soon change." She was mad that after only 3 months of dating marriage was not being discussed enough and a proposal had not happened.
Kendra made several Pinterest boards to exclusively share and tag me on with all her marriage ideas, wedding plans, baby ideas, house ideas, and engagement ideas. Most days I would get between 10 to 20 e-mails telling me when Kendra added something that she liked or wanted that she added to one of the Pinterest boards she shared with me. I ended up selling some of my most important and most sentimental personal possessions to provide for her, and to pay the bill's and rent, this is how selfish and self-centered she is!!!! (I sold the 18K gold rope necklace given to me by my late mother as a gift when I graduated high school which I wore every day since I was 18 to always remember the sacrifices, the love, and support my mother gave me. Kendra didn't like the necklace even though she knew the meaning behind it, so off it came to please her. The rope necklace meant the world to me but Kendra was much more important so when bill's and rent needed to be paid I sold the necklace to Herteen and Stocker Jeweler for the gold value figuring it would be fine since Kendra and I were together and then she broke up with me the next day.) I would like to know how she would feel selling the Owl ring that was from her late grandfather. Would she sacrifice that for someone as I did for her?
Kendra doesn’t want people to know about all the great things I did for her and how much I loved her and bent over backwards to do for her, cooking her dinner while she studied, doing her laundry for her, doing the dishes for her while she studied, being there to support / comfort / help her when she was having issues with menstrual bleeding, hand washing her underwear after she would accidentally bleed on them, helping her with her homework, helping her with her papers, helping her with her quizzes, cleaning the snow and ice off her car and warming it up all winter for her, spending over an hour in below freezing temperatures and treacherous icy road conditions in an ice storm with Illinois State Trooper Ed Shamblin #6433 to get her car out of the ditch on I-74 on February 11, 2019 because she couldn't afford another violation or accident on her driving record/insurance, I was there for all her medical appointments to lend support and guidance, supported and held her hand during medical procedures, supported her and took care of her during her medical recovery period and I would walk to the end of the Earth for her since I already sacrificed all my finances to support her because she came home crying in late September 2018 and again in early October 2018 saying she couldn't work at Bluebird Diner anymore because of the way she was being treated by Jon Wilson, the co-owner, Ann Stork, the manager, Diana Vanessa Marquez, the longtime girlfriend of Kendra's ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez, Genya Chic, and Gabby Perez two co-workers (Ironically Kendra is Facebook friends and on Snap Chat with both Diana and Gabby who she claimed to absolutely hate when she worked at Bluebird). When you love another individual, you will sacrifice anything and everything to help them even when it means giving up everything you have. I sacrificed all my finances and financial future during a very difficult time in my life just to make sure Kendra was taken of, was provided for, and had what put a smile on her face even if that meant an abundance of material items.
When Kendra cried and became emotional two times claiming how bad it was at Bluebird for her and how much pain she was in, both her hip and back, I didn't hesitate to sacrifice everything I had to get her out of that situation. Some say that is pure stupidity but most say it is genuine love to put the person you love and care for first even when you are struggling whether it is financially, mentally, or both. Taking care of a person you care about and love is to be commended not chastised. When you provide for someone else and try as hard as you can why should that result in arrest and prosecution? It happens that way because the person you provided for lied and took advantage of you just like her mother taught her. After Kendra ended her 5 or 6 month relationship with Tyler Chavez, who she said was high on drugs too often, drank too much, and treated her poorly, she checked herself into Mercy Hospital Iowa City for a suicide attempt in April 2018. After she was released she contacted Tyler several times to hookup for sex including during the week of her birthday in September 2018, the week we started dating (9/6/2018). After her relationship ended with Tyler in April 2018 her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, told her to stay away from him several times but she didn't because she was still hooking up with him for sex between April 2018 and September 2018. At her request, I spoke with her therapist, Paul Shellenberg, about my past on November 16, 2018 and after the session Paul asked Kendra if she was staying away from Tyler and she answered "Yes" when in fact she had gone to his house to pick him up when he was high on drugs on November 13, 2018 to tell him about my 24 year old conviction to shame me. During our relationship her and Tyler texted frequently and then she tried hiding 55 texts she shared with him to try and cheat on me with him.
After sacrificing my savings and retirement to take care of Kendra Passmore because she was crying and telling me she couldn't work as a waitress anymore because of harassment and because her hip and back hurt too much this was the thanks I got from her. I spent over $30,000.00 on her in 5 months time to buy her whatever clothes, shoes, jewelry, designer makeup, and designer hair products she asked for, begged for, and wanted because of her tragic life story that she told me in the first week we were dating to tug on my heartstrings and to emotionally manipulate me and then she tries to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the week of Valentines Day 2019. I had to sit and watch this exchange of texts over the two weekends surrounding our five month anniversary which was the week before Valentines Day. This is what breaks a man both financially and mentally and Kendra could care less because she is such a shallow, selfish, ignorant, psychopathic, narcissistic, cheap slut. As soon as she gets done using someone to her benefit and ruining their life she gets back on her knees and searches for the next dick to suck just like her cheap whore cheating mother. After I confronted her once she sent the text "You won't tell anyone, right?" she told me she wasn't going to do anything, she was just having fun. BULLSHIT!!
Unless your fucking stupid tell me she wasn't going to cheat on me. Her up and down mental roller-coaster shit absolutely ruined me and I honestly feel there is no reason to continue with life. I lost everything playing Kendra's little manipulative bullshit games, take care of me, I'm sick, I'm injured, mommy doesn't buy me what I want, I was never a priority to mommy or daddy, mommy was never there for me, mommy never took me to the doctor, mommy is a cheater, my hip hurts, my back hurts, my knee hurts, I am bleeding in my underwear, my stomach hurts, I have the flu, TJ Watts cheated on me, my mommy won't buy me the Kate Spade ring or DVD player I wanted for Christmas. (BULLSHIT)!!!
White Texts (Tyler) Blue Text (Cheating Whore Kendra)
Kendra despises individuals who are Catholic and she absolutely hates the Asian students at the University of Iowa, she feels they are entitled and she refers to them as "F**KING ASIAN'S." When I showed Kendra a picture of my girlfriend from high school in late December 2018, who was half Asian, Kendra immediately said "SHE IS UGLY!!" I also have a South Korean sister-in-law who fought hard in the late 1970's to make it to the United States with her new born son. Take a look at the men Kendra has dated are they all amazing looking? Kendra will lie and play the victim to get sympathy even after she has provoked others by being abusive, manipulative, or cheating on them. She will use men to her advantage for sex and money then cheat on them behind their back just like her worthless, ignorant, whore of a mother Nikole Ouellette, another liar and cheater who also leeches men of their money and then cheats on them. Aliases that Kendra is known to go by on the University of Iowa campus because of all of her hookups for sex with different men and women, because she is bisexual, include Kendra Paige Whoremore, Kendra Paige Slutmore, Kendra Paige Trampmore, Kendra Paige Cheatmore, Kendra Paige Liemore, Kendra Paige Fuckmore Men, Kendra Paige Suckmore Dick, Kendra Paige Swallowmore Cum, Kendra Paige Slutwhore, or Passmore Kendra from Man to Man so they can have sex with her.
In early November 2018 her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, told Kendra she looked like a tramp to her face because of the way she was dressed to go out drinking at the bars in Peoria, IL while she was underage. Kendra also goes after men that like to travel and she will manipulate and beg them to cover her expenses and take her on expensive trips like in January 2019 to the Dominican Republic which cost $6000.00. She will do this until you either figure out her manipulative ways or she gets caught cheating like her cheap whore cheating mother Nikole Leachman, Nikole Passmore, Nikole Caveglia, and now Nikole Ouellette. Click the link: "Nikole Leachman Caveglia Succubus" to see for yourself, this is how pathetic her mother is and who Kendra has learned from because Kendra lies and always takes the easy way out and sleeps around with men because she is so cheap and easy.
Kendra currently has 4 Instagram accounts so she can admire all the pictures of herself with past boyfriends. Who is that self-centered, a narcissist, a psychopath, or a Machiavellian? The "Dark Triad's" principles apply to Kendra because lurking beneath the surface of people who use and manipulate others for their own advantage (for sex, money, material items, and travel) is psychology’s “Dark Triad.” Defined as a set of 3 traits that include the tendency to (1) SEEK ADMIRATION AND SPECIAL TREATMENT (otherwise known as NARCISSISM) Kendra - look at me, don't dress better than me, you don't complement me enough, look at all the pictures of me and my photo shoot, pay $165.00 so I can go get sexually explicit pictures taken in the lingerie you bought that I manipulated you with and punished you with by not wearing for you even though you paid for it and we picked it out together at 2 different adult sex stores, you better not look at any other women when you have me to look at, you better not look down any other woman's shirt when you have my shirt to look down, but it's alright for me to share and hide 55 texts with my ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, to make arrangements to sneak to his house to have sex during the week of Valentine's Day 2019, take my picture, send me that picture of me, send me pictures of me on the swing from the Dominican Republic, I need "Likes" on Facebook and "Followers" on Instagram, EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!!! Buy me gifts!! “It's not about the money but I like when you buy me stuff” was a frequent saying of Kendra. (How do you buy “stuff or gifts” without money?) Kendra repeatedly told me her relationship with me was not about the money. If that was truly the case then why did she leave me when I was broke and if money was not the objective then she should be able to part with the over $30,000.00 of material items that I bought which she claims are all hers, just more lies due to her selfishness and narcissism. Take me out and show me off in the tens of thousands of dollars of great clothes, shoes, jewelry, makeup, and purses you bought me by sacrificing your entire savings and retirement because you loved me so much, took care of me, and gave me the best you could which was everything I wanted, asked for, and begged for.
Then let me go behind your back and try to cheat on you since you sacrificed everything you had for me, my family, my cats, and my friends. Since I am so self-absorbed and ignorant when you take me out for dinner I will just sit on my cell phone and ignore you while you pay the $90.00 to $250.00 bill and I am on Facebook, texting, or on Instagram. I don't care that I hurt you so bad by the cheating text messages and what I said about you in them and the lies I told the Iowa City Police about you and berating you about the sexual issues you were having because of my punishment and harsh criticism. I don't care that you contemplate suicide daily because you are hurting so bad about how I portrayed you to the Iowa City Police and what I did to your confidence, self worth, mental well being and how I used you for money even when you were actually struggling financially and selling your personal possessions to give me what I wanted and to put me first. I don't care that you have lost 22lbs because you don't eat for days, sometimes weeks, cry daily, cry when you go to bed, and cry every time you look at yourself in the mirror because of how I shamed you for not being muscular enough and mentally beating you down about your appearance so I could have control. I don't care that you drained your savings and retirement for me, to support me.
Kendra constantly made the comment "You don't talk about me enough to other people and tell them what I want to do with my life." After telling everyone she wanted to be a big shot lawyer she now wants to be an alcohol and drug counselor even though she has used 2 fake ID's and has been drinking underage since she was 13 and has illegally done ecstasy, adderall, and smoked a lot of marijuana. She is a great example and role model for her two younger brothers and she should be helping others with alcohol and drug recovery since she does illegal drugs and drinks alcohol underage illegally. Buy me the UGG boots and buy me the UGG slippers you didn't get me for Christmas after having already spent several thousand dollars on gifts for me, buy me the Kate Spade purse that I begged for 5 times in the store in Chicago, let me order Stitch Fix and RocksBox subscriptions and when the boxes arrive let me beg to use your credit card to buy the items since I didn't have the money anyways when I signed up for the subscriptions).
(2) TO BE CALLOUS AND INSENSITIVE (PSYCHOPATHY) (Kendra- continuously berating them and mentally breaking them down for a felony conviction from 24 years ago that they paid their debt for, saw a great psychologist for, received help for, learned from, grew from, and moved on from, then making them go to her mental heath counselor, Paul Schellenberg, in Peoria, IL on November 16, 2018 to discuss that same issue from 24 years ago when it wasn’t even an issue, paying $200.00 cash for the session, then afterwards still being ignorant and rubbing it in their face, using it to shame them and manipulate them, running and telling everyone she could about it, then having her ignorant white trash friend, Mariah Banta, (who Kendra constantly bad mouthed as being needy, a druggie, stating her child will be screwed up due to all the drugs her and her loser boyfriend have done, never living up to her potential, and dating a druggie loser, Drew Suddeth) post it on Facebook. Kendra did all this even after her mental health counselor said the situation from 24 years ago was NOT an issue and was a one-off event that was so far in the past that it was nothing to worry about. Kendra then again starts berating the person in front of her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, on February 11, 2019 for having sexual issues that she caused because of her demands, harsh criticism, and sexual narcissism that they were working through but she instead made fun of all because she was caught trying to cheat with her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez who her counselor told her to stay away from several times).
After Kendra was caught cheating she then ran to the Iowa City Police and lied about the person to get her way, play the victim, and to hide the truth about all the great things that he did for her in the relationship. The trip to the Dominican Republic, paying all her bills, being by her side for every medical appointment, in the ER for 9 hours, during her MRI wait, and medical procedures she had and buying her tens of thousands of dollars of material items that she wanted and/or begged for. All of this was being done to support her and put her first even though he was not working and literally drained his entire savings and retirement accounts and gave her everything because she came home from Bluebird Diner crying, once in late September 2018 and once in early October 2018, stating her hip and back hurt her too much to waitress and that other woman she worked with were harassing her and being mean and she couldn't handle it anymore. Once again Kendra was the victim and used emotional manipulation to get what she wanted from me.
(3) TO MANIPULATE OTHERS (MACHIAVELLIANISM) (Kendra- feel sorry for me, give me sympathy, I was abused by my parents/step parents, I was abused by my ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez, I was harassed at work and came home crying two times in hopes that you would support me so I didn't have to work, and look, my emotional manipulation was successful, my hip hurts carry me, my back hurts massage it, go to my doctor's appointments with me, my parents never made me a priority, I'm sick, my stomach hurts go get me suppositories, my mom never took me to the doctor because she is a worthless parent who was never there for me, my mom calls and tells me I have flaws while you were sitting next to me and she made me cry, I have the flu buy me Sprite then after I break up with you that day let me go get greasy McDonald's later because I lied about the flu to manipulate you and get more sympathy from you and to take the beautiful flowers you bought me, take care of me, spoil me, be the only reference for me on the job application to Prelude Behavioral Services, pray for me out loud that I get the job at night before we go to bed, now let me break up with you the day after I got the job even though you supported me and was always there for me the previous 5 months, even though you helped me get out of the bad situation at Bluebird Diner, even though you are in terrible debt because you put me first and didn't think twice about sacrificing your savings and retirement to provide for me, giving me everything I wanted and begged for. I was cheated on by my ex-boyfriend TJ Watts and it devastated me and I told you all about it to get sympathy from you so then let me cheat on you after you buy me all the things I wanted, asked for, and begged for because that is the kind of SELFISH PIECE OF SHIT THAT I AM after you supported me and drained your finances for me when you were struggling, after I constantly put you down about your age of 42 even though I knew your age on our first date, 9/6/2018 after I was the one to ask you out and give you my phone number, 9/4/2018, and kept telling you how great of a father you will be to our children and how supportive and great you will be during the childbirth process, constantly putting you down for the sexual issues you were experiencing from my constant harsh criticism, punishment, and telling my ignorant mother, my friends, and my mental health counselor about it behind your back to humiliate, belittle, and embarrass you).
The Dark Triad underlies a host of undesirable behaviors including (1) Aggressiveness (Kendra- getting mad when she didn't get what she wanted fast enough, the UGG Boots, UGG Slippers, Kate Spade Purse, $13,000.00 engagement ring from Tiffany's, and the townhouse she wanted, throwing tantrums when she couldn't curl her hair the right way, or do her makeup the right way), (2) Sexual Opportunism (Kendra- constantly seeking out new sex partners for her personal sexual gain and advantage, wanting to try new sex toys and sex restraints, asking to be put in sex restraints and blind folded then saying "Do whatever you want to me!", being mad when there was no "make up sex" after a disagreement which always ended by her putting me down for one thing or another, wanting to have sex in a public pool in the Dominican Republic, wanting to try new and different sex scenarios and positions in the shower), and (3) Impulsivity (Kendra wanting a $13,000.00 engagement ring within three months of dating and being upset when there no proposal on Christmas Day 2018 or 10 days later in the Dominican Republic in January 2019, wanting to move in together within three months of dating and already putting together a list of places in December 2018, talking about and wanting to start designing and building a new house within 5 months of dating, wanting to be married as soon as possible, everything always had to be done immediately, always RIGHT NOW!!).
Triad measures that test each of the three qualities separately show a pattern of behavior that in fact combines the WORST of all worlds. (1) They seek out multiple, casual sex partners (Kendra- all she does is hookup with men she hardly knows for sex and has one night stands with men between relationships, she was fucking her abusive ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the same week we went on our first date, then she was fucking James Flickinger who was arrested for OWI and now she is fucking Rayce Neal who's father was in prison for two years: Google "Terry Neal Marion Iowa Department of Justice").
(2) When someone gets in their way, they act out aggressively to take what they want (Kendra- runs to Iowa City Police and lies to them about several things, including why she stopped working at Bluebird Diner, lying about having her passenger side front tire punctured and then never responding to two inquiries when the Iowa City Police called and e-mailed her about it, lying about seeing someone by her apartment on June 14, 2019 when in fact she saw them drive past her that night when she was leaving 30 HOP at 12:30am after being at the bar underage and drinking underage, and lying about when she found them sleeping in their car in her apartment parking lot because it was during the relationship on January 13-14, 2019 when she wanted some "alone time" and they respected that however they had no place to go even though they were paying the rent and bill's for the apartment so their only option was to sleep in their car in the parking lot in below zero temperature weather.
Kendra is incredibly selfish with the mentality of “I am not giving back the material items I know rightfully belong to you that you paid for, it's all mine because I am selfish and my mom and dad didn't spoil me and buy me what I wanted so I found someone to buy me things by emotionally manipulating them with my poor me, I am a poor girl story and always being sick or hurt then I got caught trying to cheat on them behind their back hoping I would get away with it and they would continue to buy me more stuff). Oddly enough, although their self-esteem doesn’t seem to be either higher or lower than others, people who score high on the Dark Triad qualities have an unstable view of themselves.
Kendra wants to be a therapist and strongly believes everyone needs mental health counseling or therapy and that everyone should be on prescription medication for their problems, like her. She gets a high from forcing people into counseling or therapy and getting them on prescription medication and she feels that this is the only way she can forgive them for any wrongdoing they may have caused her, even if she provoked the situation like trying to cheat on them or repeatedly shaming them, mentally abusing them and exploiting them. This is a sick form of mental illness to think this way and also want to be a therapist. She also likes to play therapist and pull past trauma out of people like a felony conviction from 24 years ago then use it against them to shame them and mentally abuse them when she doesn't get what she wants financially/materialistically or gets caught trying to cheat on someone. This is a sign of severe mental illness!!!
Kendra's life is always one big pity party and she uses it to manipulate men to give her what she wants because it is poor poor Kendra who always plays the victim while lying about and victimizing other's for her personal gain. Kendra will throw people under the bus and lie about them even after they have provided for her and given her everything she wanted, asked for, and begged for, her greed and mental illness is severe, and she uses it to manipulate people with her little poor girl story. She doesn't care that someone unselfishly drained their entire savings and entire retirement account while they were unemployed and struggling just so they could provide for her and give her and her family the things she wanted and things she wanted for them.
Yes, after losing my job at UIHC in 2015 I was devastated but I gathered myself, didn't quit, and enrolled into the Neurobiology program which is one of the most difficult programs at the University of Iowa. Going back to complete this degree in my late 30's was not easy but I excelled in my program and graduated in December 2017 which many people would never try to accomplish. After graduating in December 2017 I had enough money for myself in my savings and retirement from UIHC to pay off my student debt, buy a new vehicle, and put a down payment on a house if I wanted to but after meeting Kendra and realizing that she needed help getting out of her job at Bluebird Diner because of the harassment she claimed she was faced with and the pain she was in I put all my wants, desires, and wishes aside to provide for her. I was desperately searching for a research position at the time to prepare for getting my PhD in neuroscience while studying for the GRE.
Kendra quit working at Bluebird Diner after coming home several times crying and claiming she was being harassed and treated poorly by several female co-workers and she was in a lot of pain from being on her feet too much, her hip hurt and her back hurt. We had a conversation about her quitting to find a new job so she then proceeded to write a resignation e-mail to the co-owner Jon Wilson and manager Ann Stork in early October 2018 stating she couldn't work in the difficult environment anymore. I supported her the entire time while I was trying to find a great research position, study for the GRE, and continue to provide for her. Maybe the Iowa City Police should talk to her friends Morgan Ramsey and Heather Campbell who also worked at Bluebird Diner with Kendra and know the truth about her, her lies, and the manipulative bullshit she pulled. I used my entire savings and retirement to take care of Kendra and forgo a fresh start for myself and now it is all gone because I cared for and loved her very much and after doing everything I did for her and losing my entire savings and finding her trying to cheat on me behind my back I truly feel suicide may really be my only option because I have nothing now. I gave her everything and I stepped up in a big way to help her when she needed it and then I get shit on and discarded by a selfish, self centered slut, Kendra Passmore!!!
When the person you love comes to you and says they are being harassed at work and are in too much pain to continue their job you have two options: 1) Tell them too bad, suck it up or 2) You help them no matter what the cost and hope to make a difference. I chose to help and I lost because Kendra doesn't give a damn about anybody except herself !!! Kendra had the audacity to go to the Iowa City Police and tell them that I called her at work and made her quit her job even after I found her crying at home two separate times telling me she couldn't handle the harassment and she was in too much pain to work there anymore. Kendra is too ignorant, immature, selfish, and self centered to admit to the police all the help I gave her and the great things I did for her.
When we first began dating Kendra wanted to move to the west coast which she told me at Maggie's Pizza on 9/12/18 when I took her on a date there so afterwards I began looking for and putting in research applications on the west coast. As our relationship continued she decided she wanted to move back to Illinois to raise a family with me and be closer to her family for when we had children. When she told me that I began putting in applications at Northwestern, Rush, and DePaul Universities for research positions every chance I got. She doesn't care that after she broke up with me I only had $13.00 to my name because as always I put her first and gave her everything else that I had and even paid for a $12.00 e-book she needed for a class earlier in the week when all I had was $25.00.
Always putting her first and sacrificing every dollar I had for her. She doesn't care that now I have nothing and struggle financially and mentally after the way she emotionally manipulated me, beat me down mentally about my past, belittled me because I wasn't muscular enough, and mentally abused me. In January 2019 during our relationship and one night after my birthday which was three nights after returning home from taking her on a $6000.00 trip to the Dominican Republic she made me sleep in my car in the parking lot of the apartment on below freezing and negative wind chill night when I was paying all the rent and bills, she was abusing me by constantly putting me down because of my past, my age, my sex drive, and because I wasn't going to the gym enough (so I went and got a gym membership and began lifting again), taking over $1000.00 for bills and rent from me the day before she broke up with me which then forced me to sleep in my car yet again in subzero temperatures while I had just paid the rent and energy bill for the month so she could stay warm, comfortable, and protected. Manipulating me by always playing sick, injured, or needing attention because her parents didn't give it to her, portraying me as evil to the Iowa City Police, and she did this even though I made a huge sacrifice and drained all of my finances to provide for her and now I am faced with great debt because I made her the priority in my life and gave her all I could and all she wanted, and all she asked for.
I was always a gentleman to her, opening her car door for her even when she drove, always pulling the chair out for her at restaurants, always helping her on and off with her coat, always opening doors for her at business', always taking her to stay at and dine in 5 star hotels and restaurants in Chicago, Peoria, and Davenport. Dining at the best restaurants in Iowa City, taking her for several shopping excursions on Michigan Avenue to get her whatever she wanted, getting a penthouse suite and getting her a spa treatment weekend at River City Casino in Davenport, taking her on several expensive shopping excursions at Coral Ridge Mall, always being attentive to her needs in the dressing rooms of stores, grabbing different sizes for her, and being supportive when she tried on outfits, never hesitating to get her the best name brand clothes / shoes / heels / booties, St. Louis Cardinals clothes / pullover / hat to take her to a Cubs vs. Cardinals game at Wrigley Field, UGG slippers, UGG boots (she constantly begged for), Timberland Boots, several coats / jackets both dress and casual, makeup and makeup accessories from Mac (over $800.00 worth), Sephora, Ulta, Lush, North Face coat/vest/plush jacket, Banana Republic dresses / skirts / sweaters /shirts / pants, Ralph Lauren and Dearborn Denim Jean's, Kate Spade Eyeglass Frames and lenses, Banana Republic dress pants / dress shirts / dress suit coats / light blue heels / brown and black knee high boots, 5 pairs of heels / dress shoes from DSW, $1300.00 in shoes / knee high boots / clothes / belts / accessories from White House Black Market, over $300.00 in clothes from Pink Sugar, over $800.00 in clothes from DryGoods, 2 pair of booties from Akira, over $300.00 in underwear / bras / workout clothes from Victoria Secrets, stuffed animals from Disney-Harry Potter-Build a Bear, UGG bedding, UGG blankets, UGG body pillow, UGG Bath Robe, Sleep Number Adjustable pillow, 3 Kate Spade purses (she begged for several times in the store in Chicago), Kate Spade Wallet, Kate Spade Passport Holder, Kate Spade Cat Coasters, Kate Spade jewelry, Kendra Scott jewelry, Pandora jewelry, Kate Spade wrist watch, Alex and Ani bracelets for her and her grandmother and her step mother and a necklace for her step sister, Coach purse for her grandmother, UGG blanket for her grandmother, UGG slippers for her father, Milwaukee heated work gloves for her father, UGG robe / wine / wine cork / wine glasses for her step mother, Pizza/Toaster oven / thick warm socks and joint warmers for her mother and step father, Ralph Lauren clothing outfits for her brother, Coca Cola collectibles / Coca Cola clock for her uncle, Neon Ford Mustang sign for her brother, North Face coat for her brother, Kate Spade kitchen accessories, Harry Potter books, Harry Potter Movie Set, Christmas Tree, Hallmark Ornaments, Star Wars Hallmark Tree Skirt, Star Wars Hallmark Tree Topper, Dyson Animal Vaccuum (because she had bad post nasal drip and allergy issues from cat dander), $1500.00 in sex toys for us both to enjoy / vibrators (she already had 5 of her own vibrators by the time she was 19 years old) / lingerie / sex restraints / folding sex bench / sex swing / anal gel / anal vibrator, full size swivel mirror to hold her jewelry, HP color printer (because she didn't want to drive to campus to print stuff for class), paid both her Wells Fargo and Victoria Secrets credit cards off, paid off her Mercy / UIHC / Chiropractor medical bill's that were going to a collection agency, paid her speeding ticket from University Heights, $1130.00 for floor seats at an Elton John concert in Chicago that she wanted to go to because of the song "Daniel", paid for her passport, a $6000.00 trip to the Dominican Republic in an all-inclusive adult only resort, rented an SUV to take all the Christmas gifts she wanted for her family to her family in Illinois because there were so many gifts, buying Christmas and graduation gifts for her friends, paying for her and her friend to get their nails done, paying for her to get her nails, hair, and eyebrows done, paid for and adopted a cat for her grandfather for Christmas, made sure her cats and his had what they needed, Furminator’s, carrying cases, litter box, litter pad, self-feeders, bowls, food, litter. Kendra had called and texted all of her family members and asked them what they wanted for Christmas and once she got the list I stepped up and got everything they wanted and whatever else she wanted for them.
I never hesitated putting her and her family first. Every time we visited her grandmother Kendra always wanted to get her flowers so without any hesitation I stopped and got her what she wanted for her grandmother. Over $30,000.00 spent just ON KENDRA ALONE in 5 months for clothing, shoes, jewelry, makeup, hair products, salon visits, manicures/pedicures and items for her cats. A large amount of the items purchased were for both of us to have and enjoy moving forward in our relationship. Kendra believes that everything I bought during our relationship is hers or was gifted to her. It was never implied in writing or verbally that many of the items were gifts for her, she is a liar and a thief. The over $30,000.00 DOES NOT include all the items for her family at Christmas, items and dining out for her friends, groceries, medication, dining out with her, hotel accommodations, hair, nails, eyebrows, the trip to the Dominican Republic that she begged for since September 2018 constantly stating "We should go somewhere warm for winter break"and asking several times "Did you book the vacation yet?", vehicle maintenance, vehicle repair, vehicle gas, and all her bills. I sacrificed my savings and retirement to give her all the things she said her parents or family members wouldn't buy for her. Kendra constantly told me how she hated shopping with her mother because her mother wouldn't buy her the clothes she liked because they were too expensive or too "Fancy" and her mother was cheap. She gave me this poor girl sob story and constantly complained about being sick or injured to manipulate me enough to feel sorry for her and buy her these things.
Kendra recognized that I had a big heart and soft spot for her and she exploited that through emotional manipulation and shaming me for my felony from 24 years ago, she then went behind my back and was caught making arrangements to cheat on me the week of Valentine's Day 2019 even after knowing that my deceased mother's birthday was February 14th and it was a difficult time for me. My mom will be gone 20 years as of January 25, 2020, I was 24 when I lost her and 27 when my brother died and my God mother/aunt. One thing I always remember my mother telling me after my father died on Christmas Eve in 1984 when I was 8 was "Even though we don't have much, it's always better to give and put others first." This is exactly what I did for Kendra, I sacrificed everything even though I was struggling very bad to find a great job. It doesn't matter what your age is, when you are cheated on or catch a partner trying to cheat on you it breaks a person and breaks them badly and after Kendra made sure to tell me how she was cheated on by TJ Watts and how bad it hurt her, and telling me she loved how loyal I was to her, then she tries to cheat like the SELFISH PIECE OF SHIT SHE IS!!!! I gave her everything plus a lot more and then she goes behind my back to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez the week of Valentine's Day, completely destroying my heart and mental well being, crushing my spirit and happiness I once had, and degrading my self-worth and confidence. She did still ask me if I had planned on proposing to her on Valentine's Day 2019 after we ate dinner and after she was caught on both February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019 making plans with her ex to sneak over to his place to have sex.
Three days prior as a 5 month anniversary gift on February 6, 2019 she was given a $500.00 Kate Spade purse that was shipped over night from a Michigan Von Maur that she had begged for and kept stating "It's on sale we should get it" while in the Kate Spade store in Chicago on December 23, 2018, a day after she was already given a $500.00 Kate Spade purse for an early Christmas gift that she really wanted. Kendra saw and wanted a $13,000.00 engagement ring from Tiffany's which I had no problem with but she was upset that there was no marriage proposal on Christmas Day 2018 or 10 days later in the Dominican Republic in January 2019. She had been going around to family and friends showing them pictures she took of the ring when she tried it on in September 2018 and again in October 2018 while in Chicago because all she talked about was marriage and having wchildren. Kendra was incredibly jealous that many of her friends were posting engagement photos and pregnancy photos on different social media platforms and she was trying so hard to rush into marriage and have children. While in the Dominican Republic in January 2019 she commented that marriage wasn't being talked about enough after a sales representative asked us if we had any children and the answer was no and they continued to say that our children would be beautiful. She was mad that when asked about children the answer wasn't "No, we are not married but that will soon change." She was mad that after only 3 months of dating marriage was not being discussed enough and a proposal had not happened.
Kendra made several Pinterest boards to exclusively share and tag me on with all her marriage ideas, wedding plans, baby ideas, house ideas, and engagement ideas. Most days I would get between 10 to 20 e-mails telling me when Kendra added something that she liked or wanted that she added to one of the Pinterest boards she shared with me. I ended up selling some of my most important and most sentimental personal possessions to provide for her, and to pay the bill's and rent, this is how selfish and self-centered she is!!!! (I sold the 18K gold rope necklace given to me by my late mother as a gift when I graduated high school which I wore every day since I was 18 to always remember the sacrifices, the love, and support my mother gave me. Kendra didn't like the necklace even though she knew the meaning behind it, so off it came to please her. The rope necklace meant the world to me but Kendra was much more important so when bill's and rent needed to be paid I sold the necklace to Herteen and Stocker Jeweler for the gold value figuring it would be fine since Kendra and I were together and then she broke up with me the next day.) I would like to know how she would feel selling the Owl ring that was from her late grandfather. Would she sacrifice that for someone as I did for her?
Kendra doesn’t want people to know about all the great things I did for her and how much I loved her and bent over backwards to do for her, cooking her dinner while she studied, doing her laundry for her, doing the dishes for her while she studied, being there to support / comfort / help her when she was having issues with menstrual bleeding, hand washing her underwear after she would accidentally bleed on them, helping her with her homework, helping her with her papers, helping her with her quizzes, cleaning the snow and ice off her car and warming it up all winter for her, spending over an hour in below freezing temperatures and treacherous icy road conditions in an ice storm with Illinois State Trooper Ed Shamblin #6433 to get her car out of the ditch on I-74 on February 11, 2019 because she couldn't afford another violation or accident on her driving record/insurance, I was there for all her medical appointments to lend support and guidance, supported and held her hand during medical procedures, supported her and took care of her during her medical recovery period and I would walk to the end of the Earth for her since I already sacrificed all my finances to support her because she came home crying in late September 2018 and again in early October 2018 saying she couldn't work at Bluebird Diner anymore because of the way she was being treated by Jon Wilson, the co-owner, Ann Stork, the manager, Diana Vanessa Marquez, the longtime girlfriend of Kendra's ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez, Genya Chic, and Gabby Perez two co-workers (Ironically Kendra is Facebook friends and on Snap Chat with both Diana and Gabby who she claimed to absolutely hate when she worked at Bluebird). When you love another individual, you will sacrifice anything and everything to help them even when it means giving up everything you have. I sacrificed all my finances and financial future during a very difficult time in my life just to make sure Kendra was taken of, was provided for, and had what put a smile on her face even if that meant an abundance of material items.
When Kendra cried and became emotional two times claiming how bad it was at Bluebird for her and how much pain she was in, both her hip and back, I didn't hesitate to sacrifice everything I had to get her out of that situation. Some say that is pure stupidity but most say it is genuine love to put the person you love and care for first even when you are struggling whether it is financially, mentally, or both. Taking care of a person you care about and love is to be commended not chastised. When you provide for someone else and try as hard as you can why should that result in arrest and prosecution? It happens that way because the person you provided for lied and took advantage of you just like her mother taught her. After Kendra ended her 5 or 6 month relationship with Tyler Chavez, who she said was high on drugs too often, drank too much, and treated her poorly, she checked herself into Mercy Hospital Iowa City for a suicide attempt in April 2018. After she was released she contacted Tyler several times to hookup for sex including during the week of her birthday in September 2018, the week we started dating (9/6/2018). After her relationship ended with Tyler in April 2018 her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, told her to stay away from him several times but she didn't because she was still hooking up with him for sex between April 2018 and September 2018. At her request, I spoke with her therapist, Paul Shellenberg, about my past on November 16, 2018 and after the session Paul asked Kendra if she was staying away from Tyler and she answered "Yes" when in fact she had gone to his house to pick him up when he was high on drugs on November 13, 2018 to tell him about my 24 year old conviction to shame me. During our relationship her and Tyler texted frequently and then she tried hiding 55 texts she shared with him to try and cheat on me with him.
After sacrificing my savings and retirement to take care of Kendra Passmore because she was crying and telling me she couldn't work as a waitress anymore because of harassment and because her hip and back hurt too much this was the thanks I got from her. I spent over $30,000.00 on her in 5 months time to buy her whatever clothes, shoes, jewelry, designer makeup, and designer hair products she asked for, begged for, and wanted because of her tragic life story that she told me in the first week we were dating to tug on my heartstrings and to emotionally manipulate me and then she tries to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the week of Valentines Day 2019. I had to sit and watch this exchange of texts over the two weekends surrounding our five month anniversary which was the week before Valentines Day. This is what breaks a man both financially and mentally and Kendra could care less because she is such a shallow, selfish, ignorant, psychopathic, narcissistic, cheap slut. As soon as she gets done using someone to her benefit and ruining their life she gets back on her knees and searches for the next dick to suck just like her cheap whore cheating mother. After I confronted her once she sent the text "You won't tell anyone, right?" she told me she wasn't going to do anything, she was just having fun. BULLSHIT!!
Unless your fucking stupid tell me she wasn't going to cheat on me. Her up and down mental roller-coaster shit absolutely ruined me and I honestly feel there is no reason to continue with life. I lost everything playing Kendra's little manipulative bullshit games, take care of me, I'm sick, I'm injured, mommy doesn't buy me what I want, I was never a priority to mommy or daddy, mommy was never there for me, mommy never took me to the doctor, mommy is a cheater, my hip hurts, my back hurts, my knee hurts, I am bleeding in my underwear, my stomach hurts, I have the flu, TJ Watts cheated on me, my mommy won't buy me the Kate Spade ring or DVD player I wanted for Christmas. (BULLSHIT)!!!
White Texts (Tyler) Blue Text (Cheating Whore Kendra)
