Kendra Paige Passmore is a Gold Digging, Manipulative, Narcissistic Slut (MUST READ)!!
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Manipulation by a Manipulator playing the Victim
How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story
Narcissist Triangulation Tactic
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Narcissists Cheating Ways: Spot on Description of Kendra and the way I was used and treated
Relationship between the Narcissist and Empath the Kendra Passmore story
Can't say "No" to a Narcissist like Kendra Passmore OR there are CONSEQUENCES!!
On November 16, 2018 I was accompanied by Kendra Passmore who I was dating to meet with one of her 3 mental health counselor's, Paul Schellenberg, in Peoria, IL. During the first week of November 2018 Kendra had learned about my felony conviction from 24 years ago when I was 19 (now 44) that I had to serve 2 years of probation for beginning in 1995. I saw a great psychologist every month for 2 years as part of my sentence, I learned, I grew, and he gave me the tools to successfully move on. I had to pay $135.00 a month to the psychologist and $10.00 a month to the probation department. This totaled $3,480.00 over the 2 years.
Upon finding out about my felony Kendra insisted that I meet with her mental health counselor to discuss with him what I had already taken care of, been through, and moved past 24 years ago. Apparently individuals who want to be counselors and/or therapists, like Kendra, don't beleive in the concept of rehabilitation, growth, and moving on, which shows her incredible ignorance and immaturity. It's a concept she should learn how to embrace instead of judging and shaming others who have made changes, grown, and moved past difficult situations in their lives. Paul told Kendra that my conviction from 24 years ago was a one-off thing, far in the past, and she had nothing to worry about. I confessed to Paul and Kendra that the reason I didn't disclose my conviction initially was because it was an embarrassing chapter of my life, it was far in the past, and it didn't define me. I had successfully completed all the court ordered requirements and I moved on from it. In appreciation for Paul's time I gave him $200.00 cash.
At the end of the meeting as Paul was hugging Kendra he asked her if she was staying away from her abusive ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, Kendra replied "Yes." Kendra lied to her mental health counselors face because Kendra was with Tyler three days prior on the night of November 13, 2018 telling him about my felony conviction from 24 years ago while Tyler was high on drugs. Kendra went and picked him up since he was high and they went to her place that evening. Just days after becoming aware of my conviction in early November 2018, which Kendra's mother and step father knew about at that time, Kendra ran and told her friend Morgan Ramsey which occurred several days prior to telling her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez.
So within the same week of disclosing the information about my felony conviction from 24 years ago during the first week of November 2018 Kendra's mother Nikole Ouellette and step-father Thayne Ouellette knew about it. Kendra then ran and told her best friend Morgan Ramsey and the following week told her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez so they all knew about it. Then Kendra told her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, about it and had me go talk to him November 16, 2018. At some point before we left for our trip to the Dominican Republic on January 3, 2019 Kendra also told her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, about my felony conviction. I think it is interesting that Kendra is telling the Iowa City Police that she left me because she found out about my felony, making it seem that she learned about it days before breaking up with me. Kendra knew about my felony conviction for almost 4 months before leaving me, huh!!
Kendra left me because the money ran out, she wasn't getting her way after I caught her trying to cheat on me, and she wasn't getting what she wanted out of me anymore, that is it plain and simple. This is just the shallow and superficial nature of a narcissist, they are only in a relationship to benefit themselves and they do not care about the other person at all even though they pretend to. That was very apparent with Kendra, she put little to no effort into our relationship but expected me to give 200% effort and do everything for her and give her everything at all times because she was always asking for something or she was sick, hurt, or injured in some capacity. When a narcissist is no longer getting what they want from the relationship they leave, it's that simple. This is no secret about narcissism and the exact reason why Kendra has been in and out of so many relationships. When a narcissist does not get their way, cracks in their false self begin to form, or they do not benefit from the relationship they leave because they only care about one thing and that is themselves. There was absolutely no abuse going on as Kendra claims, everything she claims was abuse was her hypersensitive reaction in times SHE felt she was being criticized or judged. The one time I became upset with her was when I caught her trying to set up a time to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the week of Valentines Day 2019. Again, Kendra is always the victim even though she tried to cheat on me and was caught while I was helping her and providing for her during a very difficult time in my life. To Kendra everything is always someone else's fault, this is the exact mentality of a narcissist, they shame you, they blame you, they hide their lies, and they leave when they don't get what they want!!!
After being made aware of each of these occurrences of Kendra running her mouth off with my personal business I kindly discussed it with her and asked her to please stop, several times. However, Kendra doesn't care about anyone but herself so I then found that she had already told her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, when she informed me that she wanted me to go speak with him about my conviction from 24 years ago. One would think that with such a sensitive personal matter Kendra would have had the decency and maturity to keep her mouth shut especially since I never once gave her permission to discuss my personal matter with anyone, she just took that liberty because she is selfish, immature, ignorant and spiteful just like her mother and it gave Kendra an opportunity to have leverage and shame me for a 24 year old conviction. In my experience when you share a very difficult personal matter with someone you are intimate with it is implied that you keep the information between the two of you unless you are given permission to discuss it. Kendra has no idea what boundaries, intimacy, and privacy are because she doesn't use her underdeveloped brain before she runs her big mouth.
This is just one example of many which demonstrate how ignorant, immature, and untrustworthy Kendra is. She kept running her mouth off about my personal matter to shame me, humiliate me, and have leverage over me from a situation that occurred 24 years ago. In the meeting with Paul, Kendra heard exactly what bothered me about my past so after the meeting she exploited that information to get what she wanted from me. This is what manipulative, ignorant, immature, selfish, narcissistic people like Kendra do, they find a persons weakness and exploit it for power and superiority because Kendra is perfect and better than everyone else, in her mind at least.
Like every person with narcissistic personality disorder Read about NPD and Read about Narcissistic Abuse, Kendra chose to mentally abuse and shame me for power, leverage, and to get what she wanted from me financially and materialistically. Then when she wasn't getting her way anymore, after I caught her trying to cheat on me, she left me due to her selfishness and narcissism. Narcissists, like Kendra, are weak mentally and do not have the mental capacity or tools to successfully resolve issues when they arise in a relationship, especially issues they are at fault for, like cheating, emotional manipulation, mental abuse, and exploitation of others. Wait, Kendra is perfect and nothing is ever her fault, she has no flaws or imperfections. Instead, it is easier for Kendra the narcissist to blame the partner, play the victim, shame the partner by means of triangulation, and quickly move to another relationship that is free of problems so she can get her narcissistic supply of admiration and be praised as a good person and get sympathy as the victim, once again. This is exactly why Kendra plays the victim so well, she has dated so many people and the blame is always put on them to make her the victim. She is constantly hooking up with men/women for sex because Kendra needs to be constantly complimented, admired, and sexually desired to fill her narcissistic sex supply. Everything was, is, and always will be about Kendra Passmore, at least in her selfish, narcissistic world!!!
During a day on our trip to the Dominican Republic in January 2019 Kendra was again being immature, ignorant, and judgemental of me because she did not get her way sexually earlier in the day, she wanted to have sex in a public pool at a theme park we were at. So because she didn't get what she wanted when we returned back to our resort room she decided to shame me yet again. Out of absolutely nowhere, for retaliation and to shame and embarrass me, Kendra immediately told me that she had informed her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, about my conviction before we went on the trip, again a 24 year old conviction that Kendra wouldn't drop because she saw how she could control me with it and mentally abuse me.
Then after Kendra broke up with me she had her drug and drinking buddy, Mariah Banta from Canton, IL, post my conviction on Facebook to harass me, share it on my Facebook page for all of my friends to see, and make it look like Kendra had just learned about my 24 year old conviction in March 2019 when in fact Kendra had known about it since early November 2018. Since Kendra is a master manipulator she manipulated Mariah to believe her story and do her dirty work by having Mariah make the post on my Facebook page. This is another example of Kendra exhibiting her narcissism by using a trademark narcissistic tactic called triangulation to get others to attack me like Mariah and her mother Nikole Ouellette Kendra's Triangulation Tactic . This is all part of Kendra's power and control issue. This is also how Kendra lies to get sympathy from others and play the victim, through manipulation and lie after lie. She wants everyone to believe that she left me after finding out about my 24 year old conviction. She left me because she is a selfish, self centered, lying, cheating narcissist who wasn't getting her way financially and materialistically after I caught her trying to cheat on me. The sad part is she left me because I ran out of money after giving her everything she wanted, that is how shallow, selfish, and self centered she is. I helped her and gave her everything she wanted for 5 months, then when the money ran out so did Kendra just like her cheating, cheap, money stealing and money hungry mother Kendra's Cheating Mother.
While we were in the Dominican Republic it was now going on over 2 months that Kendra was holding my past conviction over me, from 24 years ago, for absolutely no reason other than to have power, control in our relationship, and to shame me. I had kindly asked, then begged her, over a dozen times in the 2 month period to drop it but she refused because it gave her leverage over me and she always needs to be in control, even at the expense of someone else's dignity and mental health, because she is selfish, controlling, and evil. After she told me that she had disclosed my teenage conviction to her grandmother I sat in our resort room crying, as I had done several times before after she did this, and I repeatedly asked Kendra why she kept doing this to me? Kendra offered no explanation, she just sat there silently watching me cry due to the fear and embarrassment of who else she may have told. When I asked Kendra what her grandmother said, Kendra responded "She said so what, people make mistakes."
If I was such a horrible and abusive person why would Kendra travel to another country with me having known for over 2 months at the time that I had a felony conviction when I was a teenager? My conviction was never an issue when Kendra was getting her way and getting what she wanted out of me but anytime she wasn't getting her way my conviction was used in a retaliatory fashion, rubbed in my face, and used against me. This again shows Kendra's ignorance, immaturity, selfishness, and narcissism. The following morning on the way to an all day excursion in the Dominican Republic Kendra was very cold in the open air vehicle we were traveling in so without any hesitation I took off my shirt, gave it to her to wear to keep warm, and then I sat without a shirt on freezing my ass off for the 45 minute ride. I literally gave her the shirt off my back so she was warm and could sleep comfortably the rest the way. I am such an awful person for caring!!!
As I look back I realize the meeting with Paul was just another manipulative, controlling move by Kendra. I did what she wanted and even after her mental health counselor gave her reassurance that my past conviction was not an issue and there was nothing to worry about she still chose to exploit it and use it against me to manipulate and shame me for her benefit. I don't live in the past because I am mature enough to realize that it is unhealthy from a mental perspective but Kendra decided it was in her best interest and to her benefit to repeatedly remind me and put me back in a difficult chapter of my life, hold it against me for 4 months, make me relive and tell her every last traumatic detail about it, shame me, then mentally abuse me and beat me up about it so she could have power, control, and eventually play the "Healing Christian Therapist."
On February 18, 2019 Kendra used a spiritual cleansing process on me that her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, used on her for forgiveness. Kendra was doing this to get me to IMMEDIATELY forgive her for the cheating texts I caught her sending to Tyler on February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019. Once again in Kendra's world she demanded to be forgiven and rewarded immediately after her mistakes, poor choices, and bad behavior, but I was never given the same courtesy with regards to a 24 year old conviction. No matter how many times I apologized to Kendra for not disclosing my conviction sooner and asked, then begged her for forgiveness she refused to forgive me because she would loose control and leverage in our relationship. I was punished and repeatedly shamed for a situation from 24 years ago that was completely irrelevant to our relationship until Kendra saw how she could exploit it and use it against me.
Kendra knew damn well she was being mentally abusive and manipulative by pulling my past and past trauma out to use against me. She tormented me and subjected me to this abuse for almost 4 months because she needed power. Kendra knows what she did to me and how she treated me is inexcusable, selfish, ignorant, immature, and was unnecessary on many levels but again she refused to forgive me for something that happened 24 years ago but she deserved and demanded to be forgiven right away for trying to cheat. This is when Kendra turned into Jesus Christ to get me to forgive her for her bad behavior, however when she was done with the spiritual cleansing I told her I didn't forgive her and Kendra did not like that response at all, she was in disbelief that I didn't forgive her. The relationship was always one sided, Kendra expected many things from me, such as immediate forgiveness, however she would never reciprocate the same courtesy or expectation because of her selfishness and narcissism. I too am Christian however I believe the practices of the Holy Bible are best left in the hands of those in the church, no matter the denomination, not in the hands of an immature 20 year old playing miss junior therapist and Jesus Christ at the same time.
At the beginning of our relationship Kendra came to me crying about how Tyler was abusive and treated her so horrible, drank too much, did drugs and was getting high too much and his abuse eventually led her to check herself into Mercy Hospital in Iowa City for a suicide related situation. During our first date Kendra told me not only about how Tyler treated her but also how he was Catholic. She then stated how she could never be with someone like that, a Catholic, she despises Catholics. I later found out in texts, that you can find in another post in this blog, that Kendra and Tyler were still hooking up to fuck after she left the hospital in April 2018. She was even having sex with him the same week she asked me out for drinks and we went on our first date, 9/6/18.
Kendra had absolutely no business asking me out for drinks at the age of 19, the same week she was still fucking Tyler Chavez, her ex-boyfriend, who she told me was abusive to her, drank too much, and did too many drugs. Plain and simple, Kendra wanted money and she took advantage of me with her emotional manipulation once she saw that I fell for her horribly tragic life story that she told me all about the first week we began dating. She reeled me in with tears, all the horrible abuse she claimed to be subjected to by her parents, step-parents and Tyler, she sat on my lap crying and telling me how she didn't want to be like her mom, how her mom was never there for her, was a cheater, never bought her what she wanted because she was cheap, and never took her to the doctor when she was sick or injured, this was followed by how her parents never treated her like a priority, it was always her brothers that got the attention. She then told me about her suicide hospitalization because of Tyler and how a high school boyfriend, TJ Watts, cheated on her and she was just devastated and heartbroken. Once she got me hooked with the horrible childhood abuse and neglect stories then came the crying and tears that she couldn't work anymore, other women at Bluebird Diner were harassing her and her hip and back were hurting too much to waitress. Our entire relationship Kendra was either sick, injured, or hurt in some capacity so I babied her, took care of her, and gave her what she wanted. I could name every one of Kendra's physicians because I was in the room to support her at every appointment she had.
Kendra has again lied to the Iowa City Police and told them that I called her at Bluebird Diner, made her quit work, and was abusing her for 4 months. I was studying for the GRE to apply and get my PhD in Neuroscience, searching for a research job, and living off my savings then eventually my retirement to help her. Why would I call Kendra at work and make her quit her job if I was struggling financially myself? Why would I voluntarily introduce more financial stress and burden in my life by making Kendra quit her job? There was obviously a crisis situation or emergent issue that I saw was serious enough to elect to offer help to Kendra when she was in tears telling me on two different occasions how bad she was being treated my female co-workers and how bad her hip and back hurt, too much to waitress anymore.
This is how Kendra manipulates people, by always playing sick or injured and being the victim to get attention. After I offered to help and support her she sat and wrote a resignation letter to Jon Wilson and Ann Stark at Bluebird Diner telling them that she could not work in the hostile environment any longer and she was in too much pain to continue to waitress. I recall Kendra then texting a co-worker, Chad Burros Clark, and telling him she had quit. Chad might be a good person to speak with, oh wait, I hear Chad is already running his mouth off to Kendra, as is, Diana Vasquez Marquez and they are already speaking with the Iowa City Police. Kendra's best friend Morgan Ramsey also witnessed me stop by Bluebird Diner to bring Kendra some Icy/Hot Patches because Kendra texted me telling me her pain was horrible. When I arrived Morgan saw me give Kendra a quick lower back massage due to her SI joint being swollen and then put the Icy/Hot Patch on Kendra's back before leaving. Morgan Ramsey and Heather Campbell both worked with Kendra and both heard her complain about how she was being treated and how she hated Genya Chic, Gabby Perez, Diana Vasquez Marquez, Ann Stork, and Jon Wilson. Both Morgan and Heather knew why Kendra quit and they also saw how I took care of her because of her health issues. Morgan was even with Kendra and I in Dry Goods in Coral Ridge Mall and saw how I took care of her when she shopped for clothes.
Kendra saw that I had a big heart and fell victim to her heart string tugging emotional manipulation and she exploited that for her own selfish, greedy agenda. This is what female somatic narcissists do, they look for a nice guy with a fat wallet that will fund the lifestyle that they always wanted but were never given. They manipulate men with their tragic life stories and charm which make the men feel guilty and responsible for the pain and suffering they have endured, then the narcissist will sit back and watch the money and material items roll in as they get pampered and spoiled. Once they get board, don't get what they want, or cheat they run and play the victim to get their way and to get more sympathy from the next man.
During our relationship Kendra constantly spoke about Tyler, texted him, would hide the texts when I saw them come across her Apple watch, and went to him at least once while we were dating. On February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019 as seen in the texts in a different post, she was making plans to meet with him to have sex, cheat on me. After I caught her I asked her to cut off all communication with him. In the texts you can see below she asks him to leave her alone and never contact her again. I just found today, 11/21/2019, she is reconnecting with him again on different social media platforms.
This is typical of Kendra's narcissism and psychopathy. She has to befriend all of her former sex partners so she can have them at her disposal should a problem arrise in a current relationship when she needs sex. She is nothing more than a cheating, cheap, narcissistic slut who always has to have sex with someone to get her narcissistic sex supply. Even though she was told several times to stay away from Tyler by her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, here we are again because she cannot help herself. Her sexual narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism are severe and together perfectly describe the "Dark Triad" of psychology. Kendra will in fact be a life long mental case because of her narcissism, lies, and inability to admit her faults and imperfections, but like any good "victim" she will blame everything on everyone else, ALWAYS!!!!
Kendra is known to jump from mental health counselor to counselor looking for one in the short term that gives her and tells her what she wants or wants to hear about herself and of course she lies to them as well to always give the perception that she is the victim. Kendra jumped from Susan Meyer at Mercy Iowa City to Gloria Bieret because Susan would not give Kendra a letter to certify her NON ESA cats as ESA. The day Susan said "No" Kendra immediately started looking for a new mental health counselor. Yet again Kendra felt she should be rewarded after missing an appointment with Susan. She does the same thing with men, she cries to them to get sympathy and tell her tales of abuse and how she is the victim. Then when she is done using the person or doesn't get what she wants she runs and finds another counselor or man and I am sure she tells the same tear jerking tragic story of her life to get sympathy and tug on heartstrings. Kendra is certainly a master of emotional manipulation and she always plays the victim to get her way and to get sympathy from others because nothing is ever her fault!!!
Kendra believes that it is alright to punish, discuss others private business, shame, judge, criticize and belittle others for their past or current mistakes or choices but you are absolutely NOT allowed to punish, discuss Kendra's business, criticize, judge, or shame her for her past or current mistakes or choices. She believes that she is perfect and that she does nothing wrong. NEWS FLASH.....Nobody is perfect, it's called being human. We all make mistakes but what defines us is what we learn from the mistakes and how we grow and move forward. Kendra felt the need to constantly put me down for many things in my life from my past to current issues which was her way to manipulate me with guilt, shame me, and have control over me. She has yet to realize that when you judge others as much as she does it most certainly means that you are perfect and believe me, Kendra is as far from perfect as possible. Even her own mother called her while we were dating and said to Kendra "Well, did you tell him about all your flaws yet?" Kendra does not like to discuss or address any of her poor choices, mistakes, flaws, or imperfections. Kendra's narcissism, her control issues, her demanding and impatient mentality, and her lies are like nothing I have ever experienced.
Kendra is a master of emotional manipulation to get people to feel sorry for her and she makes her living by playing the victim. Manipulative people only know two things, get as much sympathy as you can by being sick, hurt, or placing guilt on others for pain the manipulator has endured, and when you don't get your way play the victim. Kendra is the perfect example of "Some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends when the benefits stop." When I ran out of money and began struggling financially Kendra wasn't getting her way, financially and materialistically, so she left me plain and simple. However, that was only after she went running back to Tyler for sex and tried to hide it from me. Kendra has no fucking clue what loyalty, sacrifice, and dedication are. She is a taker, a user, a liar, a cheater, a thief, selfish and self-centered, the perfect example of an individual with narcissistic personality disorder, the world must always revolve around her. With Kendra it was always GIVE ME, BUY ME, I WANT !!!!
During our relationship Kendra said she forgave individuals of any wrongdoing they caused her, because in her mind she is always the victim, as long as they went to a mental health professional and were put on prescription medication, just like her. This is the only way Kendra will forgive people even though it is highly likely that she was the one that caused or pushed them to the point of needing the mental heath professional due to her mental abuse, criticism, shaming, lies, and emotional manipulation. Tyler had been doing what Kendra demanded after they separated and he went to therapy and was put on psychiatric medication like a good little boy, now sit Tyler, roll over, now stay. Kendra must have control in all aspects of her relationships and if she does not get her way, if she looses control, or if you do not meet her demands that is when she begins to shame, belittle, and embarrass you to put you in your place, put all the blame on you, and to get you to submit to her authority once and for all.
During another meeting with her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, on February 11, 2019 Kendra became very angry with me because I began to disclose to Paul all of the horrible things Kendra was saying about him behind his back. Interesting how she could run her mouth off about my personal matter, my conviction, that I discussed with her but she then freaks the fuck out if I say anything about what she told me and said about others. She goes to Paul for "help" but then puts him down behind his back as soon as he doesn't tell her or give her what she wants. She does this to everyone because again she is perfect and has the right to judge and belittle others. During her anger spell that day she yelled at me and said "You need to be on medication", this coming from a seasoned psychiatrist, more like a seasoned psych patient. When I asked Paul if he wanted to see the texts that Kendra was sharing with Tyler she immediately intervened and said he didn't need to see them, she never let Paul answer. Again Kendra must have control because she never does anything wrong and she doesn't want to be judged. She then asked me if I had seen the texts from the first texting episode from Feb. 4, 2019 and I said "Yes, I have them all," Kendra then became very distraught when she knew I saw all 55 texts and what she was saying about me, the sign of an unfaithful, untrustworthy liar, and a cheater!!!
Kendra only loved me as long as I was buying her what she wanted and taking her on expensive trips to indulge her in the life she felt she deserved. She is an individual who you cannot trust because she is extremely two faced and will shame, belittle, and judge you just moments after meeting you. She loves to run her mouth off about other people's personal business even after being asked not to discuss those private matters with others. She claims her life is an open book but there were plenty of things she warned me I could never discuss with others and there were many things she asked me to lie about to her family and friends. Kendra's lies are to be forgiven and her mistakes never discussed but anyone else who lies or who has made a mistake will be humiliated, embarrassed, and shamed by her so Kendra will have control and get her way.
It was also during the February 11, 2019 meeting that Paul agreed that Kendra was being demanding with some things she was requesting of me. Kendra felt her requests were just expectations but Paul clearly said they were demands. Kendra has no idea the difference between a demand and an expectation. If what Kendra wanted you to do benefited her she saw it as an expectation when in reality it was her being demanding. Kendra never had a problem running her mouth off to people about my felony to shame me, my personal business, or the sexual issues I was experiencing due to her punishment and constant harsh criticism, but you better never talk about Kendra's problems, how she bad mouths other people, or what she has done, because if you did that resulted in punishment.
Also during this session and before we even began Paul took Kendra out to get food in his personal vehicle. Then during the session with Kendra and I in the room Paul told us how he liked to watch pornography when he wasn't in a relationship. What type of mental health counselor discloses that in front of clients, especially a 20 year old female client, and also privately takes a client out to eat in his personal vehicle before sessions. Paul is also Facebook friends with Kendra (he deactivated his account to hide it) and followed her on Instagram, even though he never posted anything on his Instagram account.
In Kendra's world you have to listen to her directives, do as she tells you, and play by her rules or else!!! Narcissists like Kendra are in constant search for relationships with enablers, empaths, and tongue biters, those who give her what she wants when she wants it even if it is to reward bad behavior, those that are sympathetic to her emotions and constant pity party life story she uses to manipulate others with, and those who will do as she says not as she does.
After Kendra constantly shamed me for my past conviction over a 3--4 month period I was not allowed to say anything about her cheating episode and she actually wanted to be rewarded for it with a $13,000.00 engagement ring marriage proposal and a trip to Chicago for Valentines day five days after she was trying to arrange to go fuck her ex-boyfriend.
Again, Kendra needed "alone time" February 27, 2019 and I had to sleep in my car in 22 degree below zero weather the last three days of our relationship even though I was paying the rent and bills where we were living. Kendra wouldn't even allow me to sleep on the floor or couch, but she was still texting me to give her stuff. From the evening of Feb. 27, 2019 to Mar. 2, 2019 I was sleeping in my car in below zero weather and even up until the day before she broke up with me Kendra was still texting me to call her and wake her up in the morning for a job interview, buy her groceries, take her to breakfast, give her the rent money, pay the bills, and go shopping at the mall with her to buy her more clothes. What the fuck is wrong with that picture, tell me? I will tell you, it's called using someone and taking advantage of their money plain and simple!!! When I couldn't pay for those things because I ran out of money I told her in a text I couldn't afford to pay for all that. She just assumed I was manipulating her with money and withholding it all because I didn't buy her what she asked for. Kendra left me because the money ran out and she was not getting her way financially and materialistically from me any longer only after she tried to cheat on me though!!!
During our relationship Kendra's father, Curt Passmore, wrote Kendra a check for $200.00 every month. Kendra always used that money for herself to buy things she wanted while also asking me to buy her stuff at the same time. Never once did she offer to help pay a bill or even buy me a gift with that $200.00. I even paid for the Christmas gifts from Shutterfly that she got me. This just shows her selfishness and greed because first of all she hid the $200.00 from me until one day at her fathers house I saw him write her a check and then she explained to me that he writes her a $200.00 every month. $13.00 was all I had to my name after I bought her an e-book she needed for class, paid the energy bill for her which was over $200.00 and gave her $800.00 for rent, bought her flowers to congratulate her on her new job, and got her Sprite when she lied about having the flu. This was all done in the last 4 days of are relationship before she broke up with me and put me out in 22 degree below zero weather with no place to go. This is how Kendra treats a person after they have taken care of her, provided for her, given her everything she wanted, and sacrificed everything they had for her. KENDRA PASSMORE IS AN EVIL, LYING, CHEATING, NARCISSISTIC, PSYCHOPATHIC WHORE WHO WASN'T GETTING HER WAY SO SHE LEFT!!!
The almost comical part of the night Kendra broke up with me was when she said "You broke my heart!" Wow, so let me see, she chose to text her ex-boyfriend and tell him she wanted to suck his dick, get bent over by him, was horny for him all week, was over me, and asked if she could go to his place to fuck him the week of Valentine's Day, REALLY? Yep, I broke her heart alright, this is what I mean when I say that Kendra blames everything on everyone else, she is NEVER at fault. I wasn't supposed to see those texts or catch her but I did so it was all my fault, naturally. The mind of a narcissist is fucked up!! I didn't hold a gun to her head and make her text him, Kendra was texting him from her mom's house in Canton, IL while I was watching her cats in Iowa City on Feb. 9, 2019 and she was in Davenport, IA visiting her friend Morgan Ramsey on Feb 4, 2019 when the texting started. When I caught her she said she wasn't going to do anything, read the texts in the other post and see what you think!! She is a lying, cheating, thief, and a slut!!!
Kendra keeps running to the Iowa City Police and telling lie after lie to them about everything in regards to our relationship. She continues to withhold relevant information to manipulate the police into believing she is the victim.
Kendra does not want the police to know the truth about her extensive psychiatric and mental health history, her mother being a habitual cheater, liar, and abuser of men's finances like her Read about Kendra's Cheating Mother, her abusive, controlling, and demanding mentality, her emotionally manipulative games, the fact that she knew about my felony for 4 months prior to leaving me, and her lies, all of her lies.
Kendra has managed to successfully manipulate the Iowa City Police by playing the victim as always and filing multiple false police reports with fabricated stories filled with lie after lie and I have read them all. She lies to get her way and give herself the mental perspective of being the victim, as always. She continues wasting the time and resources of the Iowa City Police, the Johnson Co. Attorney's Office, the Johnson Co. Magistrates, and by doing so she is ultimately wasting the money of the Johnson Co. tax payers with her poor me I was abused story all because she was caught trying to cheat and then didn't get her way financially and materialistically afterwards.
Kendra doesn't want the Iowa City Police to know that I treated her damn good, gave her everything she wanted, babied her, took care of her, and never once threatened her physically or was ever physical with her. She also doesn't tell the entire story as to why I became upset with her one time and one time only and that was when I caught her trying to make plans to go fuck her ex-boyfriend, the week of Valentines Day 2019, via text while I was struggling to support her and was running out of money. She doesn't want them to know that I was searching for a job, studying for the GRE, and struggling but I still helped her, bought her whatever she wanted, and provided for her until I ran out of money. Now I am really struggling and in bad debt because I chose to help the person I loved and cared about. It's funny how you help someone when they come crying to you eventhough you are struggling, then they shit on you, use you, take advantage of you, abuse you, and when you need help they walk away, lie about you, and feel good about doing it. The sad part is Kendra could care less because EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS ABOUT KENDRA PAIGE PASSMORE!!!!
What really pisses me off is Kendra stole my DVD player, along with many other items, because her piece of shit cheap mother wouldn't buy her the DVD player for Christmas 2018 that she asked for. I had to sell the brand new TV I bought when Kendra and I were still dating to use the money, $1500.00, to retain an attorney for a bullshit court case that Kendra brought against me and then never showed up for back in March 2019. Her bullshit claims of domestic abuse were lies to try and keep me from getting what is rightfully mine back because she is a selfish, cheating thief!!!! Her allegations were all fabricated bullshit and lies because she never told the Iowa City Police the entire story about her trying to cheat on me when she filed the paperwork, the truth. Nine days after Kendra filed the domestic abuse paperwork and five days before the court date Kendra texted me wanting me to send her pictures of herself from our trip to the Dominican Republic, what kind of bullshit is that? The request came after she texted me telling me to never call or text her again.
After I sold my TV I then had to borrow $200.00 from a friend of mine on disability and he really didn't have the money to lend. On top of that I had purchased a brand new $5000.00 bedroom set and mattress for Kendra and I in December 2018 and I only slept in it one week with Kendra. Kendra and I went and tested new mattresses at Art Van in Coralville, IA a month after she was made aware of felony. I never slept in the bed again and I had to sell that and all the nice bedding that went with. At the same I had to sell the rest of my furniture just to survive. I now have the luxury of one blanket, one pillow, an ironing board and iron. The place I live in has no furniture and I sleep on the floor, not on an air mattress, on the fucking floor. Is that enough sacrifice, pain, and suffering for all of Kendra's bullshit, her lies, her mental abuse, her criticism, her shaming, her narcissism, and her selfishness!!! For the first time in my life I had to walk into a food pantry because I can't even afford food!!! This is what happens when you care enough to help someone you love and always put them first when you are struggling. They abuse you, they use you, they lie about you, and they shit on you because they are ignorant and refuse to tell the truth. People don't abandon the people they love, people abandon the people they were using, right Kendra?
Read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Read about Narcissistic Abuse
Read why a Narcissist Can Dish it out but Can't Take it
Read about Emotional Manipulation
Manipulation by a Manipulator playing the Victim
How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story
Narcissist Triangulation Tactic
Narcissist Phrases: Idealize, Devalue, Discard the Kendra Passmore way
Narcissists Cheating Ways: Spot on Description of Kendra and the way I was used and treated
Relationship between the Narcissist and Empath the Kendra Passmore story
Can't say "No" to a Narcissist like Kendra Passmore OR there are CONSEQUENCES!!
When the money was there so was Kendra!!!
When the money was gone so was Kendra but only after she tried to cheat on me!!
Some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you.
Their loyalty ends when the benefits stop!!
On November 16, 2018 I was accompanied by Kendra Passmore who I was dating to meet with one of her 3 mental health counselor's, Paul Schellenberg, in Peoria, IL. During the first week of November 2018 Kendra had learned about my felony conviction from 24 years ago when I was 19 (now 44) that I had to serve 2 years of probation for beginning in 1995. I saw a great psychologist every month for 2 years as part of my sentence, I learned, I grew, and he gave me the tools to successfully move on. I had to pay $135.00 a month to the psychologist and $10.00 a month to the probation department. This totaled $3,480.00 over the 2 years.
Upon finding out about my felony Kendra insisted that I meet with her mental health counselor to discuss with him what I had already taken care of, been through, and moved past 24 years ago. Apparently individuals who want to be counselors and/or therapists, like Kendra, don't beleive in the concept of rehabilitation, growth, and moving on, which shows her incredible ignorance and immaturity. It's a concept she should learn how to embrace instead of judging and shaming others who have made changes, grown, and moved past difficult situations in their lives. Paul told Kendra that my conviction from 24 years ago was a one-off thing, far in the past, and she had nothing to worry about. I confessed to Paul and Kendra that the reason I didn't disclose my conviction initially was because it was an embarrassing chapter of my life, it was far in the past, and it didn't define me. I had successfully completed all the court ordered requirements and I moved on from it. In appreciation for Paul's time I gave him $200.00 cash.
At the end of the meeting as Paul was hugging Kendra he asked her if she was staying away from her abusive ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, Kendra replied "Yes." Kendra lied to her mental health counselors face because Kendra was with Tyler three days prior on the night of November 13, 2018 telling him about my felony conviction from 24 years ago while Tyler was high on drugs. Kendra went and picked him up since he was high and they went to her place that evening. Just days after becoming aware of my conviction in early November 2018, which Kendra's mother and step father knew about at that time, Kendra ran and told her friend Morgan Ramsey which occurred several days prior to telling her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez.
So within the same week of disclosing the information about my felony conviction from 24 years ago during the first week of November 2018 Kendra's mother Nikole Ouellette and step-father Thayne Ouellette knew about it. Kendra then ran and told her best friend Morgan Ramsey and the following week told her ex-boyfriend Tyler Chavez so they all knew about it. Then Kendra told her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, about it and had me go talk to him November 16, 2018. At some point before we left for our trip to the Dominican Republic on January 3, 2019 Kendra also told her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, about my felony conviction. I think it is interesting that Kendra is telling the Iowa City Police that she left me because she found out about my felony, making it seem that she learned about it days before breaking up with me. Kendra knew about my felony conviction for almost 4 months before leaving me, huh!!
Kendra left me because the money ran out, she wasn't getting her way after I caught her trying to cheat on me, and she wasn't getting what she wanted out of me anymore, that is it plain and simple. This is just the shallow and superficial nature of a narcissist, they are only in a relationship to benefit themselves and they do not care about the other person at all even though they pretend to. That was very apparent with Kendra, she put little to no effort into our relationship but expected me to give 200% effort and do everything for her and give her everything at all times because she was always asking for something or she was sick, hurt, or injured in some capacity. When a narcissist is no longer getting what they want from the relationship they leave, it's that simple. This is no secret about narcissism and the exact reason why Kendra has been in and out of so many relationships. When a narcissist does not get their way, cracks in their false self begin to form, or they do not benefit from the relationship they leave because they only care about one thing and that is themselves. There was absolutely no abuse going on as Kendra claims, everything she claims was abuse was her hypersensitive reaction in times SHE felt she was being criticized or judged. The one time I became upset with her was when I caught her trying to set up a time to cheat on me with her ex-boyfriend, Tyler Chavez, the week of Valentines Day 2019. Again, Kendra is always the victim even though she tried to cheat on me and was caught while I was helping her and providing for her during a very difficult time in my life. To Kendra everything is always someone else's fault, this is the exact mentality of a narcissist, they shame you, they blame you, they hide their lies, and they leave when they don't get what they want!!!
After being made aware of each of these occurrences of Kendra running her mouth off with my personal business I kindly discussed it with her and asked her to please stop, several times. However, Kendra doesn't care about anyone but herself so I then found that she had already told her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, when she informed me that she wanted me to go speak with him about my conviction from 24 years ago. One would think that with such a sensitive personal matter Kendra would have had the decency and maturity to keep her mouth shut especially since I never once gave her permission to discuss my personal matter with anyone, she just took that liberty because she is selfish, immature, ignorant and spiteful just like her mother and it gave Kendra an opportunity to have leverage and shame me for a 24 year old conviction. In my experience when you share a very difficult personal matter with someone you are intimate with it is implied that you keep the information between the two of you unless you are given permission to discuss it. Kendra has no idea what boundaries, intimacy, and privacy are because she doesn't use her underdeveloped brain before she runs her big mouth.
This is just one example of many which demonstrate how ignorant, immature, and untrustworthy Kendra is. She kept running her mouth off about my personal matter to shame me, humiliate me, and have leverage over me from a situation that occurred 24 years ago. In the meeting with Paul, Kendra heard exactly what bothered me about my past so after the meeting she exploited that information to get what she wanted from me. This is what manipulative, ignorant, immature, selfish, narcissistic people like Kendra do, they find a persons weakness and exploit it for power and superiority because Kendra is perfect and better than everyone else, in her mind at least.
Like every person with narcissistic personality disorder Read about NPD and Read about Narcissistic Abuse, Kendra chose to mentally abuse and shame me for power, leverage, and to get what she wanted from me financially and materialistically. Then when she wasn't getting her way anymore, after I caught her trying to cheat on me, she left me due to her selfishness and narcissism. Narcissists, like Kendra, are weak mentally and do not have the mental capacity or tools to successfully resolve issues when they arise in a relationship, especially issues they are at fault for, like cheating, emotional manipulation, mental abuse, and exploitation of others. Wait, Kendra is perfect and nothing is ever her fault, she has no flaws or imperfections. Instead, it is easier for Kendra the narcissist to blame the partner, play the victim, shame the partner by means of triangulation, and quickly move to another relationship that is free of problems so she can get her narcissistic supply of admiration and be praised as a good person and get sympathy as the victim, once again. This is exactly why Kendra plays the victim so well, she has dated so many people and the blame is always put on them to make her the victim. She is constantly hooking up with men/women for sex because Kendra needs to be constantly complimented, admired, and sexually desired to fill her narcissistic sex supply. Everything was, is, and always will be about Kendra Passmore, at least in her selfish, narcissistic world!!!
During a day on our trip to the Dominican Republic in January 2019 Kendra was again being immature, ignorant, and judgemental of me because she did not get her way sexually earlier in the day, she wanted to have sex in a public pool at a theme park we were at. So because she didn't get what she wanted when we returned back to our resort room she decided to shame me yet again. Out of absolutely nowhere, for retaliation and to shame and embarrass me, Kendra immediately told me that she had informed her grandmother, Sharon Passmore, about my conviction before we went on the trip, again a 24 year old conviction that Kendra wouldn't drop because she saw how she could control me with it and mentally abuse me.
Then after Kendra broke up with me she had her drug and drinking buddy, Mariah Banta from Canton, IL, post my conviction on Facebook to harass me, share it on my Facebook page for all of my friends to see, and make it look like Kendra had just learned about my 24 year old conviction in March 2019 when in fact Kendra had known about it since early November 2018. Since Kendra is a master manipulator she manipulated Mariah to believe her story and do her dirty work by having Mariah make the post on my Facebook page. This is another example of Kendra exhibiting her narcissism by using a trademark narcissistic tactic called triangulation to get others to attack me like Mariah and her mother Nikole Ouellette Kendra's Triangulation Tactic . This is all part of Kendra's power and control issue. This is also how Kendra lies to get sympathy from others and play the victim, through manipulation and lie after lie. She wants everyone to believe that she left me after finding out about my 24 year old conviction. She left me because she is a selfish, self centered, lying, cheating narcissist who wasn't getting her way financially and materialistically after I caught her trying to cheat on me. The sad part is she left me because I ran out of money after giving her everything she wanted, that is how shallow, selfish, and self centered she is. I helped her and gave her everything she wanted for 5 months, then when the money ran out so did Kendra just like her cheating, cheap, money stealing and money hungry mother Kendra's Cheating Mother.
While we were in the Dominican Republic it was now going on over 2 months that Kendra was holding my past conviction over me, from 24 years ago, for absolutely no reason other than to have power, control in our relationship, and to shame me. I had kindly asked, then begged her, over a dozen times in the 2 month period to drop it but she refused because it gave her leverage over me and she always needs to be in control, even at the expense of someone else's dignity and mental health, because she is selfish, controlling, and evil. After she told me that she had disclosed my teenage conviction to her grandmother I sat in our resort room crying, as I had done several times before after she did this, and I repeatedly asked Kendra why she kept doing this to me? Kendra offered no explanation, she just sat there silently watching me cry due to the fear and embarrassment of who else she may have told. When I asked Kendra what her grandmother said, Kendra responded "She said so what, people make mistakes."
If I was such a horrible and abusive person why would Kendra travel to another country with me having known for over 2 months at the time that I had a felony conviction when I was a teenager? My conviction was never an issue when Kendra was getting her way and getting what she wanted out of me but anytime she wasn't getting her way my conviction was used in a retaliatory fashion, rubbed in my face, and used against me. This again shows Kendra's ignorance, immaturity, selfishness, and narcissism. The following morning on the way to an all day excursion in the Dominican Republic Kendra was very cold in the open air vehicle we were traveling in so without any hesitation I took off my shirt, gave it to her to wear to keep warm, and then I sat without a shirt on freezing my ass off for the 45 minute ride. I literally gave her the shirt off my back so she was warm and could sleep comfortably the rest the way. I am such an awful person for caring!!!
As I look back I realize the meeting with Paul was just another manipulative, controlling move by Kendra. I did what she wanted and even after her mental health counselor gave her reassurance that my past conviction was not an issue and there was nothing to worry about she still chose to exploit it and use it against me to manipulate and shame me for her benefit. I don't live in the past because I am mature enough to realize that it is unhealthy from a mental perspective but Kendra decided it was in her best interest and to her benefit to repeatedly remind me and put me back in a difficult chapter of my life, hold it against me for 4 months, make me relive and tell her every last traumatic detail about it, shame me, then mentally abuse me and beat me up about it so she could have power, control, and eventually play the "Healing Christian Therapist."
On February 18, 2019 Kendra used a spiritual cleansing process on me that her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, used on her for forgiveness. Kendra was doing this to get me to IMMEDIATELY forgive her for the cheating texts I caught her sending to Tyler on February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019. Once again in Kendra's world she demanded to be forgiven and rewarded immediately after her mistakes, poor choices, and bad behavior, but I was never given the same courtesy with regards to a 24 year old conviction. No matter how many times I apologized to Kendra for not disclosing my conviction sooner and asked, then begged her for forgiveness she refused to forgive me because she would loose control and leverage in our relationship. I was punished and repeatedly shamed for a situation from 24 years ago that was completely irrelevant to our relationship until Kendra saw how she could exploit it and use it against me.
Kendra knew damn well she was being mentally abusive and manipulative by pulling my past and past trauma out to use against me. She tormented me and subjected me to this abuse for almost 4 months because she needed power. Kendra knows what she did to me and how she treated me is inexcusable, selfish, ignorant, immature, and was unnecessary on many levels but again she refused to forgive me for something that happened 24 years ago but she deserved and demanded to be forgiven right away for trying to cheat. This is when Kendra turned into Jesus Christ to get me to forgive her for her bad behavior, however when she was done with the spiritual cleansing I told her I didn't forgive her and Kendra did not like that response at all, she was in disbelief that I didn't forgive her. The relationship was always one sided, Kendra expected many things from me, such as immediate forgiveness, however she would never reciprocate the same courtesy or expectation because of her selfishness and narcissism. I too am Christian however I believe the practices of the Holy Bible are best left in the hands of those in the church, no matter the denomination, not in the hands of an immature 20 year old playing miss junior therapist and Jesus Christ at the same time.
At the beginning of our relationship Kendra came to me crying about how Tyler was abusive and treated her so horrible, drank too much, did drugs and was getting high too much and his abuse eventually led her to check herself into Mercy Hospital in Iowa City for a suicide related situation. During our first date Kendra told me not only about how Tyler treated her but also how he was Catholic. She then stated how she could never be with someone like that, a Catholic, she despises Catholics. I later found out in texts, that you can find in another post in this blog, that Kendra and Tyler were still hooking up to fuck after she left the hospital in April 2018. She was even having sex with him the same week she asked me out for drinks and we went on our first date, 9/6/18.
Kendra had absolutely no business asking me out for drinks at the age of 19, the same week she was still fucking Tyler Chavez, her ex-boyfriend, who she told me was abusive to her, drank too much, and did too many drugs. Plain and simple, Kendra wanted money and she took advantage of me with her emotional manipulation once she saw that I fell for her horribly tragic life story that she told me all about the first week we began dating. She reeled me in with tears, all the horrible abuse she claimed to be subjected to by her parents, step-parents and Tyler, she sat on my lap crying and telling me how she didn't want to be like her mom, how her mom was never there for her, was a cheater, never bought her what she wanted because she was cheap, and never took her to the doctor when she was sick or injured, this was followed by how her parents never treated her like a priority, it was always her brothers that got the attention. She then told me about her suicide hospitalization because of Tyler and how a high school boyfriend, TJ Watts, cheated on her and she was just devastated and heartbroken. Once she got me hooked with the horrible childhood abuse and neglect stories then came the crying and tears that she couldn't work anymore, other women at Bluebird Diner were harassing her and her hip and back were hurting too much to waitress. Our entire relationship Kendra was either sick, injured, or hurt in some capacity so I babied her, took care of her, and gave her what she wanted. I could name every one of Kendra's physicians because I was in the room to support her at every appointment she had.
Kendra has again lied to the Iowa City Police and told them that I called her at Bluebird Diner, made her quit work, and was abusing her for 4 months. I was studying for the GRE to apply and get my PhD in Neuroscience, searching for a research job, and living off my savings then eventually my retirement to help her. Why would I call Kendra at work and make her quit her job if I was struggling financially myself? Why would I voluntarily introduce more financial stress and burden in my life by making Kendra quit her job? There was obviously a crisis situation or emergent issue that I saw was serious enough to elect to offer help to Kendra when she was in tears telling me on two different occasions how bad she was being treated my female co-workers and how bad her hip and back hurt, too much to waitress anymore.
This is how Kendra manipulates people, by always playing sick or injured and being the victim to get attention. After I offered to help and support her she sat and wrote a resignation letter to Jon Wilson and Ann Stark at Bluebird Diner telling them that she could not work in the hostile environment any longer and she was in too much pain to continue to waitress. I recall Kendra then texting a co-worker, Chad Burros Clark, and telling him she had quit. Chad might be a good person to speak with, oh wait, I hear Chad is already running his mouth off to Kendra, as is, Diana Vasquez Marquez and they are already speaking with the Iowa City Police. Kendra's best friend Morgan Ramsey also witnessed me stop by Bluebird Diner to bring Kendra some Icy/Hot Patches because Kendra texted me telling me her pain was horrible. When I arrived Morgan saw me give Kendra a quick lower back massage due to her SI joint being swollen and then put the Icy/Hot Patch on Kendra's back before leaving. Morgan Ramsey and Heather Campbell both worked with Kendra and both heard her complain about how she was being treated and how she hated Genya Chic, Gabby Perez, Diana Vasquez Marquez, Ann Stork, and Jon Wilson. Both Morgan and Heather knew why Kendra quit and they also saw how I took care of her because of her health issues. Morgan was even with Kendra and I in Dry Goods in Coral Ridge Mall and saw how I took care of her when she shopped for clothes.
Kendra saw that I had a big heart and fell victim to her heart string tugging emotional manipulation and she exploited that for her own selfish, greedy agenda. This is what female somatic narcissists do, they look for a nice guy with a fat wallet that will fund the lifestyle that they always wanted but were never given. They manipulate men with their tragic life stories and charm which make the men feel guilty and responsible for the pain and suffering they have endured, then the narcissist will sit back and watch the money and material items roll in as they get pampered and spoiled. Once they get board, don't get what they want, or cheat they run and play the victim to get their way and to get more sympathy from the next man.
During our relationship Kendra constantly spoke about Tyler, texted him, would hide the texts when I saw them come across her Apple watch, and went to him at least once while we were dating. On February 4, 2019 and February 9, 2019 as seen in the texts in a different post, she was making plans to meet with him to have sex, cheat on me. After I caught her I asked her to cut off all communication with him. In the texts you can see below she asks him to leave her alone and never contact her again. I just found today, 11/21/2019, she is reconnecting with him again on different social media platforms.
This is typical of Kendra's narcissism and psychopathy. She has to befriend all of her former sex partners so she can have them at her disposal should a problem arrise in a current relationship when she needs sex. She is nothing more than a cheating, cheap, narcissistic slut who always has to have sex with someone to get her narcissistic sex supply. Even though she was told several times to stay away from Tyler by her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, here we are again because she cannot help herself. Her sexual narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism are severe and together perfectly describe the "Dark Triad" of psychology. Kendra will in fact be a life long mental case because of her narcissism, lies, and inability to admit her faults and imperfections, but like any good "victim" she will blame everything on everyone else, ALWAYS!!!!
Kendra is known to jump from mental health counselor to counselor looking for one in the short term that gives her and tells her what she wants or wants to hear about herself and of course she lies to them as well to always give the perception that she is the victim. Kendra jumped from Susan Meyer at Mercy Iowa City to Gloria Bieret because Susan would not give Kendra a letter to certify her NON ESA cats as ESA. The day Susan said "No" Kendra immediately started looking for a new mental health counselor. Yet again Kendra felt she should be rewarded after missing an appointment with Susan. She does the same thing with men, she cries to them to get sympathy and tell her tales of abuse and how she is the victim. Then when she is done using the person or doesn't get what she wants she runs and finds another counselor or man and I am sure she tells the same tear jerking tragic story of her life to get sympathy and tug on heartstrings. Kendra is certainly a master of emotional manipulation and she always plays the victim to get her way and to get sympathy from others because nothing is ever her fault!!!
Kendra believes that it is alright to punish, discuss others private business, shame, judge, criticize and belittle others for their past or current mistakes or choices but you are absolutely NOT allowed to punish, discuss Kendra's business, criticize, judge, or shame her for her past or current mistakes or choices. She believes that she is perfect and that she does nothing wrong. NEWS FLASH.....Nobody is perfect, it's called being human. We all make mistakes but what defines us is what we learn from the mistakes and how we grow and move forward. Kendra felt the need to constantly put me down for many things in my life from my past to current issues which was her way to manipulate me with guilt, shame me, and have control over me. She has yet to realize that when you judge others as much as she does it most certainly means that you are perfect and believe me, Kendra is as far from perfect as possible. Even her own mother called her while we were dating and said to Kendra "Well, did you tell him about all your flaws yet?" Kendra does not like to discuss or address any of her poor choices, mistakes, flaws, or imperfections. Kendra's narcissism, her control issues, her demanding and impatient mentality, and her lies are like nothing I have ever experienced.
Kendra is a master of emotional manipulation to get people to feel sorry for her and she makes her living by playing the victim. Manipulative people only know two things, get as much sympathy as you can by being sick, hurt, or placing guilt on others for pain the manipulator has endured, and when you don't get your way play the victim. Kendra is the perfect example of "Some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends when the benefits stop." When I ran out of money and began struggling financially Kendra wasn't getting her way, financially and materialistically, so she left me plain and simple. However, that was only after she went running back to Tyler for sex and tried to hide it from me. Kendra has no fucking clue what loyalty, sacrifice, and dedication are. She is a taker, a user, a liar, a cheater, a thief, selfish and self-centered, the perfect example of an individual with narcissistic personality disorder, the world must always revolve around her. With Kendra it was always GIVE ME, BUY ME, I WANT !!!!
During our relationship Kendra said she forgave individuals of any wrongdoing they caused her, because in her mind she is always the victim, as long as they went to a mental health professional and were put on prescription medication, just like her. This is the only way Kendra will forgive people even though it is highly likely that she was the one that caused or pushed them to the point of needing the mental heath professional due to her mental abuse, criticism, shaming, lies, and emotional manipulation. Tyler had been doing what Kendra demanded after they separated and he went to therapy and was put on psychiatric medication like a good little boy, now sit Tyler, roll over, now stay. Kendra must have control in all aspects of her relationships and if she does not get her way, if she looses control, or if you do not meet her demands that is when she begins to shame, belittle, and embarrass you to put you in your place, put all the blame on you, and to get you to submit to her authority once and for all.
During another meeting with her mental health counselor, Paul Schellenberg, on February 11, 2019 Kendra became very angry with me because I began to disclose to Paul all of the horrible things Kendra was saying about him behind his back. Interesting how she could run her mouth off about my personal matter, my conviction, that I discussed with her but she then freaks the fuck out if I say anything about what she told me and said about others. She goes to Paul for "help" but then puts him down behind his back as soon as he doesn't tell her or give her what she wants. She does this to everyone because again she is perfect and has the right to judge and belittle others. During her anger spell that day she yelled at me and said "You need to be on medication", this coming from a seasoned psychiatrist, more like a seasoned psych patient. When I asked Paul if he wanted to see the texts that Kendra was sharing with Tyler she immediately intervened and said he didn't need to see them, she never let Paul answer. Again Kendra must have control because she never does anything wrong and she doesn't want to be judged. She then asked me if I had seen the texts from the first texting episode from Feb. 4, 2019 and I said "Yes, I have them all," Kendra then became very distraught when she knew I saw all 55 texts and what she was saying about me, the sign of an unfaithful, untrustworthy liar, and a cheater!!!
Kendra only loved me as long as I was buying her what she wanted and taking her on expensive trips to indulge her in the life she felt she deserved. She is an individual who you cannot trust because she is extremely two faced and will shame, belittle, and judge you just moments after meeting you. She loves to run her mouth off about other people's personal business even after being asked not to discuss those private matters with others. She claims her life is an open book but there were plenty of things she warned me I could never discuss with others and there were many things she asked me to lie about to her family and friends. Kendra's lies are to be forgiven and her mistakes never discussed but anyone else who lies or who has made a mistake will be humiliated, embarrassed, and shamed by her so Kendra will have control and get her way.
It was also during the February 11, 2019 meeting that Paul agreed that Kendra was being demanding with some things she was requesting of me. Kendra felt her requests were just expectations but Paul clearly said they were demands. Kendra has no idea the difference between a demand and an expectation. If what Kendra wanted you to do benefited her she saw it as an expectation when in reality it was her being demanding. Kendra never had a problem running her mouth off to people about my felony to shame me, my personal business, or the sexual issues I was experiencing due to her punishment and constant harsh criticism, but you better never talk about Kendra's problems, how she bad mouths other people, or what she has done, because if you did that resulted in punishment.
Also during this session and before we even began Paul took Kendra out to get food in his personal vehicle. Then during the session with Kendra and I in the room Paul told us how he liked to watch pornography when he wasn't in a relationship. What type of mental health counselor discloses that in front of clients, especially a 20 year old female client, and also privately takes a client out to eat in his personal vehicle before sessions. Paul is also Facebook friends with Kendra (he deactivated his account to hide it) and followed her on Instagram, even though he never posted anything on his Instagram account.
In Kendra's world you have to listen to her directives, do as she tells you, and play by her rules or else!!! Narcissists like Kendra are in constant search for relationships with enablers, empaths, and tongue biters, those who give her what she wants when she wants it even if it is to reward bad behavior, those that are sympathetic to her emotions and constant pity party life story she uses to manipulate others with, and those who will do as she says not as she does.
After Kendra constantly shamed me for my past conviction over a 3--4 month period I was not allowed to say anything about her cheating episode and she actually wanted to be rewarded for it with a $13,000.00 engagement ring marriage proposal and a trip to Chicago for Valentines day five days after she was trying to arrange to go fuck her ex-boyfriend.
Again, Kendra needed "alone time" February 27, 2019 and I had to sleep in my car in 22 degree below zero weather the last three days of our relationship even though I was paying the rent and bills where we were living. Kendra wouldn't even allow me to sleep on the floor or couch, but she was still texting me to give her stuff. From the evening of Feb. 27, 2019 to Mar. 2, 2019 I was sleeping in my car in below zero weather and even up until the day before she broke up with me Kendra was still texting me to call her and wake her up in the morning for a job interview, buy her groceries, take her to breakfast, give her the rent money, pay the bills, and go shopping at the mall with her to buy her more clothes. What the fuck is wrong with that picture, tell me? I will tell you, it's called using someone and taking advantage of their money plain and simple!!! When I couldn't pay for those things because I ran out of money I told her in a text I couldn't afford to pay for all that. She just assumed I was manipulating her with money and withholding it all because I didn't buy her what she asked for. Kendra left me because the money ran out and she was not getting her way financially and materialistically from me any longer only after she tried to cheat on me though!!!
During our relationship Kendra's father, Curt Passmore, wrote Kendra a check for $200.00 every month. Kendra always used that money for herself to buy things she wanted while also asking me to buy her stuff at the same time. Never once did she offer to help pay a bill or even buy me a gift with that $200.00. I even paid for the Christmas gifts from Shutterfly that she got me. This just shows her selfishness and greed because first of all she hid the $200.00 from me until one day at her fathers house I saw him write her a check and then she explained to me that he writes her a $200.00 every month. $13.00 was all I had to my name after I bought her an e-book she needed for class, paid the energy bill for her which was over $200.00 and gave her $800.00 for rent, bought her flowers to congratulate her on her new job, and got her Sprite when she lied about having the flu. This was all done in the last 4 days of are relationship before she broke up with me and put me out in 22 degree below zero weather with no place to go. This is how Kendra treats a person after they have taken care of her, provided for her, given her everything she wanted, and sacrificed everything they had for her. KENDRA PASSMORE IS AN EVIL, LYING, CHEATING, NARCISSISTIC, PSYCHOPATHIC WHORE WHO WASN'T GETTING HER WAY SO SHE LEFT!!!
The almost comical part of the night Kendra broke up with me was when she said "You broke my heart!" Wow, so let me see, she chose to text her ex-boyfriend and tell him she wanted to suck his dick, get bent over by him, was horny for him all week, was over me, and asked if she could go to his place to fuck him the week of Valentine's Day, REALLY? Yep, I broke her heart alright, this is what I mean when I say that Kendra blames everything on everyone else, she is NEVER at fault. I wasn't supposed to see those texts or catch her but I did so it was all my fault, naturally. The mind of a narcissist is fucked up!! I didn't hold a gun to her head and make her text him, Kendra was texting him from her mom's house in Canton, IL while I was watching her cats in Iowa City on Feb. 9, 2019 and she was in Davenport, IA visiting her friend Morgan Ramsey on Feb 4, 2019 when the texting started. When I caught her she said she wasn't going to do anything, read the texts in the other post and see what you think!! She is a lying, cheating, thief, and a slut!!!
Kendra keeps running to the Iowa City Police and telling lie after lie to them about everything in regards to our relationship. She continues to withhold relevant information to manipulate the police into believing she is the victim.
Kendra does not want the police to know the truth about her extensive psychiatric and mental health history, her mother being a habitual cheater, liar, and abuser of men's finances like her Read about Kendra's Cheating Mother, her abusive, controlling, and demanding mentality, her emotionally manipulative games, the fact that she knew about my felony for 4 months prior to leaving me, and her lies, all of her lies.
Kendra has managed to successfully manipulate the Iowa City Police by playing the victim as always and filing multiple false police reports with fabricated stories filled with lie after lie and I have read them all. She lies to get her way and give herself the mental perspective of being the victim, as always. She continues wasting the time and resources of the Iowa City Police, the Johnson Co. Attorney's Office, the Johnson Co. Magistrates, and by doing so she is ultimately wasting the money of the Johnson Co. tax payers with her poor me I was abused story all because she was caught trying to cheat and then didn't get her way financially and materialistically afterwards.
Kendra doesn't want the Iowa City Police to know that I treated her damn good, gave her everything she wanted, babied her, took care of her, and never once threatened her physically or was ever physical with her. She also doesn't tell the entire story as to why I became upset with her one time and one time only and that was when I caught her trying to make plans to go fuck her ex-boyfriend, the week of Valentines Day 2019, via text while I was struggling to support her and was running out of money. She doesn't want them to know that I was searching for a job, studying for the GRE, and struggling but I still helped her, bought her whatever she wanted, and provided for her until I ran out of money. Now I am really struggling and in bad debt because I chose to help the person I loved and cared about. It's funny how you help someone when they come crying to you eventhough you are struggling, then they shit on you, use you, take advantage of you, abuse you, and when you need help they walk away, lie about you, and feel good about doing it. The sad part is Kendra could care less because EVERYTHING IS ALWAYS ABOUT KENDRA PAIGE PASSMORE!!!!
What really pisses me off is Kendra stole my DVD player, along with many other items, because her piece of shit cheap mother wouldn't buy her the DVD player for Christmas 2018 that she asked for. I had to sell the brand new TV I bought when Kendra and I were still dating to use the money, $1500.00, to retain an attorney for a bullshit court case that Kendra brought against me and then never showed up for back in March 2019. Her bullshit claims of domestic abuse were lies to try and keep me from getting what is rightfully mine back because she is a selfish, cheating thief!!!! Her allegations were all fabricated bullshit and lies because she never told the Iowa City Police the entire story about her trying to cheat on me when she filed the paperwork, the truth. Nine days after Kendra filed the domestic abuse paperwork and five days before the court date Kendra texted me wanting me to send her pictures of herself from our trip to the Dominican Republic, what kind of bullshit is that? The request came after she texted me telling me to never call or text her again.
After I sold my TV I then had to borrow $200.00 from a friend of mine on disability and he really didn't have the money to lend. On top of that I had purchased a brand new $5000.00 bedroom set and mattress for Kendra and I in December 2018 and I only slept in it one week with Kendra. Kendra and I went and tested new mattresses at Art Van in Coralville, IA a month after she was made aware of felony. I never slept in the bed again and I had to sell that and all the nice bedding that went with. At the same I had to sell the rest of my furniture just to survive. I now have the luxury of one blanket, one pillow, an ironing board and iron. The place I live in has no furniture and I sleep on the floor, not on an air mattress, on the fucking floor. Is that enough sacrifice, pain, and suffering for all of Kendra's bullshit, her lies, her mental abuse, her criticism, her shaming, her narcissism, and her selfishness!!! For the first time in my life I had to walk into a food pantry because I can't even afford food!!! This is what happens when you care enough to help someone you love and always put them first when you are struggling. They abuse you, they use you, they lie about you, and they shit on you because they are ignorant and refuse to tell the truth. People don't abandon the people they love, people abandon the people they were using, right Kendra?
